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Christmas!

ChrisRuthPeggy

How does anyone cope with Christmas and New Year social expectations?  Although I have very few friends, there's the obligation to buy presents which seems to have become swapping boxes of chocolates, chocolate biscuits or bottles of something.  Not forgetting the 'unwanted/unneeded' gifts.  Christmas cards to people you don't 'know'.

Fortunately (or not) we don't have any extended family who we feel obliged to invite for Christmas dinner - just as well as cooking is just not my thing!!

Now, I face a dilemma - hubs is a social animal which goes against the grain of us AuDHD'ers.  Another, sort of, fortunate thing is that we have a 'holiday lodge' on an Isle of Wight holiday park, so we leg it down there.  Yes, parties, but somehow the 'friends' we have down there are few and far between, plus they're not neighbours and seldom see them, so when I make a complete idiot of myself it's not as bad as being at home.  I cope by having too many bevvies and spending all my time on the dance floor.  I know they think I'm crazy down there, so being crazy and old kinda lets me get away with it - well that's what I keep trying to tell myself!

What do you do?

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  • For most of my life, Christmas Day was for my parents. While I was a Christian, I celebrated the religious festival on Christmas Eve, as my parents weren't religious. Now, as a pagan (and with my parents gone) I celebrate Yuletide quietly between the solstice eve and the first of January, engaging in gentle observances. Four years ago, my chosen family in Northern Ireland (non religious) invited me to spend two weeks with them over Yuletide and now, they would like to see me for two years out of three. They go to town about Christmas - the whole hog. Both of them are ND and it's a joy to spend time with them, so I enjoy it, though I do enjoy the Yuletides I spend alone, too.

    It does mean I have to sort out Christmas presents, but I tend to do one big thing for them and some wee token presents. That way, it's not so bad if they give me some things I don't really use, as they are just tokens.

    Sometimes I spoil myself with a few small things I don't normally eat or drink. Thankfully, as I don't entertain, I don't have to worry about the battle of preparing food and braving supermarkets! For me, it's the quietness of the season that makes it special. Roads are deserted and people wrapped up with their families in their homes. I love to see the decorations and lights, although all I do is keep a large lit paper star in my window.

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  • For most of my life, Christmas Day was for my parents. While I was a Christian, I celebrated the religious festival on Christmas Eve, as my parents weren't religious. Now, as a pagan (and with my parents gone) I celebrate Yuletide quietly between the solstice eve and the first of January, engaging in gentle observances. Four years ago, my chosen family in Northern Ireland (non religious) invited me to spend two weeks with them over Yuletide and now, they would like to see me for two years out of three. They go to town about Christmas - the whole hog. Both of them are ND and it's a joy to spend time with them, so I enjoy it, though I do enjoy the Yuletides I spend alone, too.

    It does mean I have to sort out Christmas presents, but I tend to do one big thing for them and some wee token presents. That way, it's not so bad if they give me some things I don't really use, as they are just tokens.

    Sometimes I spoil myself with a few small things I don't normally eat or drink. Thankfully, as I don't entertain, I don't have to worry about the battle of preparing food and braving supermarkets! For me, it's the quietness of the season that makes it special. Roads are deserted and people wrapped up with their families in their homes. I love to see the decorations and lights, although all I do is keep a large lit paper star in my window.

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