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How do you cope?

ChrisRuthPeggy
Alexa kindly suggested starting a thread on coping techniques giving loads of tips and advice.  This is what I posted:

"Anyway, what I want to ask is for information and direction in how to cope with certain situations, activities and such.  Everyday things are challenging - shopping, housework, disorganisation and 'losing' things are a nightmare.  I don't know how to 'join in' on conversations - unable to express myself and, as such often saying the 'wrong' thing; topics of no interest to me ... The thing is that others don't understand how my mind works but, equally I don't understand how other peoples minds work.  Things that make total sense to me leave others confused and things that make total sense to others leave me confused!

I'm a research addict (comes with the territory) and have found some great resources.  I was wondering whether, if it's allowed, I could post some of the things I have found useful which may help others.  Some YouTube stuff and at least one book.  I would be so grateful if anyone could give me some advice on coping."

I've added something I sent to the AuDHD team:

"Living with AuDHD is certainly not easy, but maybe even harder for those around us as they face trying to understand our quirky behaviour!
Since receiving an explanation (through diagnosis) somehow many things now make more sense.  Ooo, people with AuDHD never make any sense (hehe!!)
As I mentioned, my thirst for knowledge drives me into a research frenzy - comes with the territory!  So, I'm sending these links which, as I've found informative, may help others (skip through the ads).  It's so difficult and I would be so grateful to hear how other people manage.
Odd Things Autistic People Do That Others Don't (Top 10)
Autism and ADHD: How to Cope With a Dual Diagnosis | Siri Nelson | TEDxUAlberta
I've also found a book (well, I'll hunt for it as it must be lying around somewhere in the disorganisation of an ADHD household!) : Found it!! "Order from Chaos - the everyday grind of staying organized with Adult ADHD" by Jaclyn Paul which I've been drawing on for tips and tricks to make life easier (and less chaotic).  There's some good stuff in there and I'd highly recommend it.
I would very much benefit from some sort of on-line group (perhaps restricted Facebook or Telegram group) where we 'neurodiverse' people can share stuff - both the sad, good and things that make us giggle!"
So here I am, joining an on-line group - wow!!
Amongst the chaos this is something I turn to (as well as gardening) when the world becomes too much: Hilarious Jack Russell Goes Crazy with Excitement at Crufts 2017!
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  • Hi  . I have just watched Siri's talk and I really enjoyed it. She was great! Thank you for sharing it.

  • in reply to leveller61

    She is so brave standing up there in front of an audience - wow that takes courage, but something beyond courage - creating awareness, not only to us AuDHD'ers, but others.  How she puts across what 'life' feels like and means to not only us but others whose brains work in their own individual ways portrays difference, the value of those differences and our need to understand, accept and relish such differences.  So glad you got something out of it.

    Ooo, it's cold!!  Having recently had a new boiler installed on that Hive thing I'm lost.  It means I have to put the heating on via my mobile phone, which means trying to find where my mobile phone is, then work out (having been instructed over and over again) how to do it!  Such is life, what seems easy and straight forward to others becomes a complexity for my brain!!!

    Thank you for responding, bless you X

  • in reply to ChrisRuthPeggy

    Courageous indeed, for preparing and delivering the talk, for sharing her story and for stepping forward as an advocate for our community. She's engaging and funny too.

    Like you and Siri, I am an AuDHDer. Never a dull day, is there! 

    I have a Hive system too, and have got used to it now, but it took a while for me. Hope it clicks for you soon as it's no fun being cold or having to wear coats, hats, scarves and gloves indoors.

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  • in reply to ChrisRuthPeggy

    Courageous indeed, for preparing and delivering the talk, for sharing her story and for stepping forward as an advocate for our community. She's engaging and funny too.

    Like you and Siri, I am an AuDHDer. Never a dull day, is there! 

    I have a Hive system too, and have got used to it now, but it took a while for me. Hope it clicks for you soon as it's no fun being cold or having to wear coats, hats, scarves and gloves indoors.

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