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Autistic Grief

BethB1996

Hiya,

How do you cope with autistic grief/mourning the life you had before you realised you were autistic? A year ago I was working full time and working towards my dream career. I was in that role for seven years and was good at my job.

I suffered autistic burnout and was unable to work for six months. When I returned to work, it was like I was a completely different person, I couldn’t mask as much and felt less resilient. My employer begrudgingly gave me reasonable adjustments but they didn’t feel fully supportive so I left. I now have a part time job with a disability inclusive employer. It is better, but I am making half the amount of what I did. Since changing job I have also moved in with my partner and their parents. I’ve experienced so much change in the last year and not feeling hopeful about the future. My life has gone in a direction I wasn’t planning for.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? I need some hope. Can you live a happy and healthy life as an autistic person? I’m so scared about the future, especially the financial side of it.

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  • Sometimes, we lose our dream career for other reasons. I had to pick between living where I wanted or keeping that career, and I decided living in the right place for me was better in the long term. Another time, I had to give up my dream job to look after my father, and I mourned that. Things change, even when you don't factor in the reaction to knowing you're autistic. But other things open up, too. The life you're living now isn't going to be the rest of your life, just what you can cope with for now. Give yourself time to adjust to who you are and to your new living situation. These are major things. Eventually, you'll be ready to take the next step in your working life.

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  • Sometimes, we lose our dream career for other reasons. I had to pick between living where I wanted or keeping that career, and I decided living in the right place for me was better in the long term. Another time, I had to give up my dream job to look after my father, and I mourned that. Things change, even when you don't factor in the reaction to knowing you're autistic. But other things open up, too. The life you're living now isn't going to be the rest of your life, just what you can cope with for now. Give yourself time to adjust to who you are and to your new living situation. These are major things. Eventually, you'll be ready to take the next step in your working life.

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