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The Autistic Achievement Rulebook

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Just quoting myself here from the 'Self Worth' thread:

'There is also the question of life achievements/stages eg. degree, career, buying a home, marriage, having children.

If we don't 'achieve' these stages, I think that can unfairly affect our sense of self worth.'

We say we haven't achieved the usual life stages but maybe they need to be different for us because we aren't so likely to just fall into those particular 'achievements'.

We can make our own.  Re-write the 'achievement rulebook'.

So, what do you see as an achievement for yourself in the light of your autism?

Or what do you think is an achievement generally for us autistic souls?

I will start with connection - I have connected quite profoundly I think with animals, insects and trees.

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  • I've been thinking about this a lot, for years. A few years ago I read 'Up from Slavery,' by Booker T Washington, a former slave who rose to become a beacon of the American Civil Rights Movement. I really recommend this for anyone with low self esteem. Booker's comment that struck me most was, "Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome.''

    I guess a lot of people on here experienced difficulties like mine - cold parents who taught me nothing about life, coercive relationships, cold  colleagues, false friends, feeling isolation, poor education, scapegoating, always 'out of step'. So, I count 'great success' as many things - staying positive, overcoming my difficulties, remaining moral, self educating, campaigning, helping others when I can, learning to remain positive, able to laugh and experience joy. Retirement has brought great peace, time to reflect, a stable income, belonging [on here] - and giving myself treats on a regular basis, as well as recognising the flashes of joy in the past that once I overlooked. 

  • in reply to Marianne72
    Marianne72 said:
    Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome.''

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