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The Autistic Achievement Rulebook

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Just quoting myself here from the 'Self Worth' thread:

'There is also the question of life achievements/stages eg. degree, career, buying a home, marriage, having children.

If we don't 'achieve' these stages, I think that can unfairly affect our sense of self worth.'

We say we haven't achieved the usual life stages but maybe they need to be different for us because we aren't so likely to just fall into those particular 'achievements'.

We can make our own.  Re-write the 'achievement rulebook'.

So, what do you see as an achievement for yourself in the light of your autism?

Or what do you think is an achievement generally for us autistic souls?

I will start with connection - I have connected quite profoundly I think with animals, insects and trees.

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  • I can’t honestly say I feel I’ve achieved a great deal in life aside from holding down a job for decades and (hopefully) being a good son to my parents when they were alive. I guess I could say I cared for my mom as her health declined and she needed full-time care, which meant avoiding placing her in a care home - something I don’t think she would have liked. That also benefited my three siblings, as if mom had gone into a home, she would have had to sell the house, thereby depriving them of an inheritance. So yes, I suppose that counts as an achievement.

    Of course, if I had gotten married, had kids, and so on, that would have been an achievement, but it would have canceled out the other one, so it’s a case of swings and roundabouts, I guess.

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  • I can’t honestly say I feel I’ve achieved a great deal in life aside from holding down a job for decades and (hopefully) being a good son to my parents when they were alive. I guess I could say I cared for my mom as her health declined and she needed full-time care, which meant avoiding placing her in a care home - something I don’t think she would have liked. That also benefited my three siblings, as if mom had gone into a home, she would have had to sell the house, thereby depriving them of an inheritance. So yes, I suppose that counts as an achievement.

    Of course, if I had gotten married, had kids, and so on, that would have been an achievement, but it would have canceled out the other one, so it’s a case of swings and roundabouts, I guess.

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