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Self worth

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Where do you think this comes from?

Background?

Education?

Wealth?

I suspect it's more subtle than these sorts of things, but I do note that people from certain backgrounds can appear much more self confident than others, and confidence can get you far in life.

I've lack confidence and a sense of self worth for much of my life but I do think that feedback has helped me and that has mainly been from being loved (always outside the family) and being told that my characteristics are appreciated.

There is also the question of life achievements/stages eg. degree, career, buying a home, marriage, having children.

If we don't 'achieve' these stages, I think that can unfairly affect our sense of self worth.

What do you think?

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  • I think self worth comes from your life experiences.

    Many of us that are neurodivergent struggle with self worth. Is this really surprising? We grow up in a world that wasn't built for us. We often grow up feeling like we've failed, failed and failed again. We didn't know the appropriate response, we didn't know how our tone of voice sounded, we acted impulsively, we misunderstood what we were supposed to do, we didn't like the things we were expected to like, we didn't intuitively know what we were supposed to do..... The list is endless. And then there's the feedback from other people. You need to try harder. You just need to do this. As if we weren't trying already. Feedback can be harsher than this. Sometimes it's quite brutal. And sometimes we get in trouble for things we didn't mean to do. Feedback can come from peers and adults alike. Sometimes it's that we're weird or a freak. 

    I haven't even got to adulthood and the difficulties with that yet.

    This may not be every autistic persons experience. But I think it is for many.

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  • I think self worth comes from your life experiences.

    Many of us that are neurodivergent struggle with self worth. Is this really surprising? We grow up in a world that wasn't built for us. We often grow up feeling like we've failed, failed and failed again. We didn't know the appropriate response, we didn't know how our tone of voice sounded, we acted impulsively, we misunderstood what we were supposed to do, we didn't like the things we were expected to like, we didn't intuitively know what we were supposed to do..... The list is endless. And then there's the feedback from other people. You need to try harder. You just need to do this. As if we weren't trying already. Feedback can be harsher than this. Sometimes it's quite brutal. And sometimes we get in trouble for things we didn't mean to do. Feedback can come from peers and adults alike. Sometimes it's that we're weird or a freak. 

    I haven't even got to adulthood and the difficulties with that yet.

    This may not be every autistic persons experience. But I think it is for many.

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