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Self worth

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Where do you think this comes from?

Background?

Education?

Wealth?

I suspect it's more subtle than these sorts of things, but I do note that people from certain backgrounds can appear much more self confident than others, and confidence can get you far in life.

I've lack confidence and a sense of self worth for much of my life but I do think that feedback has helped me and that has mainly been from being loved (always outside the family) and being told that my characteristics are appreciated.

There is also the question of life achievements/stages eg. degree, career, buying a home, marriage, having children.

If we don't 'achieve' these stages, I think that can unfairly affect our sense of self worth.

What do you think?

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  • This is an interesting thread, especially reading other people's comments. Picking up on some of the themes, I. was encouraged as a child, but much was expected of me, not so much in the academic sense but to learn life skills at a young age and also to some extent to get things right. I think some of my loss of self worth could have been when I was expected to do things I didn't find easy, especially socially. I also failed some A levels and then began to feel that I would fail in lots of ways. 

    I do feel happier at work when I am doing things which give me a sense of achievement, whether that be helping someone or looking at a complicated query. I noticed a comment about attention to detail. That is one of my strengths at work, but since COVID things have got a lot busier and more is expected of us, but with less staff. This means that there are less opportunities to do the detailed work and more pressure to do more quickly. 

    I think that some autistic traits do not make it easy to have self worth, as I particularly feel awkward in a large crowd. I am guessing that people who come across as confident may have more self worth. 

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  • This is an interesting thread, especially reading other people's comments. Picking up on some of the themes, I. was encouraged as a child, but much was expected of me, not so much in the academic sense but to learn life skills at a young age and also to some extent to get things right. I think some of my loss of self worth could have been when I was expected to do things I didn't find easy, especially socially. I also failed some A levels and then began to feel that I would fail in lots of ways. 

    I do feel happier at work when I am doing things which give me a sense of achievement, whether that be helping someone or looking at a complicated query. I noticed a comment about attention to detail. That is one of my strengths at work, but since COVID things have got a lot busier and more is expected of us, but with less staff. This means that there are less opportunities to do the detailed work and more pressure to do more quickly. 

    I think that some autistic traits do not make it easy to have self worth, as I particularly feel awkward in a large crowd. I am guessing that people who come across as confident may have more self worth. 

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