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Does anyone else live with a hoarder?

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As some of you know I live with my mother when I’m working away from home, I normally work for a month and then go home for two weeks.

My mothers house is becoming a worry, it’s quite a large property but the hoarding is causing me anxiety. I try to go upstairs but every step has junk on it, I’m also worried someone’s going to trip on the stairs. 
Spare bedrooms are full, every worktop and cupboard is full.

unworn new clothes hang everywhere, there must be 100 pairs of new shoes, garages and sheds are full of just things. Two chrome barstools were stacked in a shed last week because they were free at a fete.

I try to keep my annex quite minimalist but stuff is creeping in, a rocking chair was ordered last week,I’ve got to have the old unused armchair in my room, the previous two unused chairs are in other rooms with stuff on them.

We now have mice, I’ve caught 8 in the last week, I get little sleep as I find small rodents very overwhelming.

All my mother says is that when she’s gone I can get rid of it all, that on its own is overwhelming. 
I think my mother is autistic, is this hoarding a trait? 
sorry I’m really tired, more venting than anything.

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  • My father was a hoarder but my mother dealt with some of his stuff, keeping some areas clear, until she could do no more. My mother died before my dad so it was left to me to do all the clearing out. 

    Looking back, I would say he was likely autistic. For a long time, I was very bitter that he had left me such a mess to deal with. I felt he was selfish, he had been abusive to me and others most of his life.

    Your situation with your mother’s hoarding sounds much worse than I had to deal with. I think some hoarders desperately want help but are unable to reach out, but I can’t say if that’s the case for others. 

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  • My father was a hoarder but my mother dealt with some of his stuff, keeping some areas clear, until she could do no more. My mother died before my dad so it was left to me to do all the clearing out. 

    Looking back, I would say he was likely autistic. For a long time, I was very bitter that he had left me such a mess to deal with. I felt he was selfish, he had been abusive to me and others most of his life.

    Your situation with your mother’s hoarding sounds much worse than I had to deal with. I think some hoarders desperately want help but are unable to reach out, but I can’t say if that’s the case for others. 

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