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Does anyone else live with a hoarder?

Roy

As some of you know I live with my mother when I’m working away from home, I normally work for a month and then go home for two weeks.

My mothers house is becoming a worry, it’s quite a large property but the hoarding is causing me anxiety. I try to go upstairs but every step has junk on it, I’m also worried someone’s going to trip on the stairs. 
Spare bedrooms are full, every worktop and cupboard is full.

unworn new clothes hang everywhere, there must be 100 pairs of new shoes, garages and sheds are full of just things. Two chrome barstools were stacked in a shed last week because they were free at a fete.

I try to keep my annex quite minimalist but stuff is creeping in, a rocking chair was ordered last week,I’ve got to have the old unused armchair in my room, the previous two unused chairs are in other rooms with stuff on them.

We now have mice, I’ve caught 8 in the last week, I get little sleep as I find small rodents very overwhelming.

All my mother says is that when she’s gone I can get rid of it all, that on its own is overwhelming. 
I think my mother is autistic, is this hoarding a trait? 
sorry I’m really tired, more venting than anything.

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  • One of the major problems with being a 'carer' (of any description or value) is that you can't actually get any kind of help unless the person agrees, as long as they are of sound mind.

    I was only able to get any sort of assistance for my mother once I'd pushed and pushed for a dementia assessment and she had had a fall (partially sighted).

    Even the GP wouldn't speak to me when she had an infected leg and she wouldn't visit them.

    My mother's roof was collapsing and the ceiling was falling down and rain was getting in but she refused builders so I just had to organise it against her wishes without telling her and have them in and keep reminding her that they were there (she kept calling the police).

    If there is a chance of a Power of Attorney for finances or health, that's a huge help, but my mother wouldn't sign one.

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  • One of the major problems with being a 'carer' (of any description or value) is that you can't actually get any kind of help unless the person agrees, as long as they are of sound mind.

    I was only able to get any sort of assistance for my mother once I'd pushed and pushed for a dementia assessment and she had had a fall (partially sighted).

    Even the GP wouldn't speak to me when she had an infected leg and she wouldn't visit them.

    My mother's roof was collapsing and the ceiling was falling down and rain was getting in but she refused builders so I just had to organise it against her wishes without telling her and have them in and keep reminding her that they were there (she kept calling the police).

    If there is a chance of a Power of Attorney for finances or health, that's a huge help, but my mother wouldn't sign one.

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