Flowers and roadside shrines

Over the years I've noticed more and more bunches of flowers left at roadsides usually the scene of an accident, when did that start? I don't remember it being a thing when I was younger. Obviously we use flowers at funerals and memorial services like Armistice Day. 

I remember it really being a thing when Diana, Princess of Wales died, the tons of flowers left at palaces around London and them being thrown in front of the hearse as they they drove to her internment.

But now they seem to be everywhere, not that I think it's a bad thing, I think it's good for there to be a place where people can show common humanity and compassion both for those who were lost and those who survive. 

I do find myself wondering at the symbolism of it though. Just after someone has died I can see that their spirit might be attached to the place of death, but after a year or two, shouldn't the symbols move on to the place of burial or scattering? Surely the spirit dosen't hang about it's departure point to the afterlife? 

As we're so much more of a secular country now and churches play a less important role in the lives of many, I think we might need a new narrative around death to fit a secular age, I don't think we're any less spiritual for being secular, the flowers show that impulse is there, but we dont' seem to know what to do with it.

 What do you think?

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  • I don't get it, and I also don't remember it happening when I was young. Flowers were always taken to graves.

    Being post-theist, I don't believe in an afterlife. I accept that there might be something after death, but I haven't got a clue what it is - I don't believe the spirits of people who've died that I knew are looking down on me, or even looking down on the earth, so I don't really see much point in "grave goods"

    Of course, this is just my view and if it comforts people I have no issue with them doing it.

  • I think theres a "gap in the market" as it were, people don't seem to feel the pull of traditional organised religion as they once did, but still want to mark the traditional big 3, hatchings, matchings and despatchings. We seem to have managed secular matchings, maybe hatchings, but not so much for despatchings. Death still seems an uncomfortable subject and I think we need different ways to learn to deal with it and maybe roadside shrines are one way of doing so. Crematoria feel lifeless, yes I know thats a bit of an obvious thing to say, but many people want to celebrate a life well lived, rather than have doom and gloom.

  • I think the idea of gardens of remembrance are good, but someone has to take care of them. I wonder if anywhere like National Trust or even local councils have thought of having these so loved ones could buy a plant for somewhere they liked to be. It would be a bit like people buy benches in memory of people and some places are rather crowded with them now 

  • Sorry it must be someone else who's in Germany. I can totally get how these things can get frought and sectarian in NI.

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