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Did your speech change after diagnosis?

StressedPenguin

I was diagnosed in June. My whole life suddenly made sense. My problems have not disappeared, but I feel I am better at voicing my needs. Now my partner is complaining that I have become more autistic. I guess its true. He also says my speech has changed. I have noticed that I bother less spending energy on intonation. Especially when I don't have enough energy. I just say what I want to say, monotonous, as fast as I need to. I feel like I should be allowed .... does it make sense? But I think it bothers him. I also got the feeling that he thinks I am making it up or copying it. Today he said - you have started to speak like the people we have seen on Love on the Spectrum. Well, surprise, I am autistic. But according to him I sounded less like that before. It may be true, indeed. Any experiences?
(BTW: Do neurotypicals not spend energy on intonation? How does that work? Is it somehow 'natural' to them?)

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  • Hey

    I am 14 months on from being diagnosed. I completely understand what you are experiencing atm. I went from high masking, people pleasing and appearing sociable to quite the opposite. I think part of it is experimenting with who you think the real you is, knowing the old way hasn’t necessarily served you in the past and somewhat cost you in terms of energy and our mental capacity. 
    I have received similar feedback from my partner, I now stim at home and in public to a degree, I make my preferences known even though they are not met with understanding and I make it known when everything is too much without apology. 
    My voice is quite monotone unless I have energy to be excited about an interest, unfortunately I have lost my interests and have no desire to rekindle them either just yet.

    I would say journal about what you have done differently, how it was received and more importantly how did it make you feel. Once you have collected some information in your journal it can help to look back and see how things have changed. 

    This late diagnosis game is seriously tricky and I do understand both sides. As far as they are concerned you came home a different person the day you received it, but we probably know the burden of having to hide that part of us for so long and then finding out you don’t have to do that anymore.

    I started to get it all, felt like it was all falling into place, understanding myself, sharing my diagnosis and being proud of being my true self.

    I have gone backwards to some extent and really finding it all very difficult, I have tried to help myself but everything has gone a bit flat. 

    I think you are doing great, keep experimenting. Your preferences are important and you have the right to be yourself even if that does get met with a little resistance.

    n

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  • Hey

    I am 14 months on from being diagnosed. I completely understand what you are experiencing atm. I went from high masking, people pleasing and appearing sociable to quite the opposite. I think part of it is experimenting with who you think the real you is, knowing the old way hasn’t necessarily served you in the past and somewhat cost you in terms of energy and our mental capacity. 
    I have received similar feedback from my partner, I now stim at home and in public to a degree, I make my preferences known even though they are not met with understanding and I make it known when everything is too much without apology. 
    My voice is quite monotone unless I have energy to be excited about an interest, unfortunately I have lost my interests and have no desire to rekindle them either just yet.

    I would say journal about what you have done differently, how it was received and more importantly how did it make you feel. Once you have collected some information in your journal it can help to look back and see how things have changed. 

    This late diagnosis game is seriously tricky and I do understand both sides. As far as they are concerned you came home a different person the day you received it, but we probably know the burden of having to hide that part of us for so long and then finding out you don’t have to do that anymore.

    I started to get it all, felt like it was all falling into place, understanding myself, sharing my diagnosis and being proud of being my true self.

    I have gone backwards to some extent and really finding it all very difficult, I have tried to help myself but everything has gone a bit flat. 

    I think you are doing great, keep experimenting. Your preferences are important and you have the right to be yourself even if that does get met with a little resistance.

    n

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