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Did your speech change after diagnosis?

StressedPenguin

I was diagnosed in June. My whole life suddenly made sense. My problems have not disappeared, but I feel I am better at voicing my needs. Now my partner is complaining that I have become more autistic. I guess its true. He also says my speech has changed. I have noticed that I bother less spending energy on intonation. Especially when I don't have enough energy. I just say what I want to say, monotonous, as fast as I need to. I feel like I should be allowed .... does it make sense? But I think it bothers him. I also got the feeling that he thinks I am making it up or copying it. Today he said - you have started to speak like the people we have seen on Love on the Spectrum. Well, surprise, I am autistic. But according to him I sounded less like that before. It may be true, indeed. Any experiences?
(BTW: Do neurotypicals not spend energy on intonation? How does that work? Is it somehow 'natural' to them?)

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  • Thank you everyone for your replies!! 

    I don't think I have a 'get out of jail free card' (although that would be nice :), but in a way I feel that I should be allowed to spend less energy on everything that is draining me. I still use 3 hours to write an SMS to get it right, and I still suppress extreme amounts of anger/frustration I experience in daily life (such as perfume on the bus). But my voice ... that should not be offensive to others, if they know why? My partner knows me for 11 years, and I have always gotten a sort of robotic voice when I was very tired, not even myself understanding why. With the diagnosis I understood. Robot is probably my 'normal', I have just adjusted my voice to how I heard others speak. Like I adjust everything about me to what is expected. And now I am tired. And it pains me when I feel my partner does not like that I am 'different' than before the diagnosis (I think he did not really see me before ... like my robot voice was the exception before, when I had no more energy left ... and now I see that my system prefers speaking like that ... but still I shouldn't because of him ... I am afraid he feels embarrassed about me ... painful thoughts). 

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  • Thank you everyone for your replies!! 

    I don't think I have a 'get out of jail free card' (although that would be nice :), but in a way I feel that I should be allowed to spend less energy on everything that is draining me. I still use 3 hours to write an SMS to get it right, and I still suppress extreme amounts of anger/frustration I experience in daily life (such as perfume on the bus). But my voice ... that should not be offensive to others, if they know why? My partner knows me for 11 years, and I have always gotten a sort of robotic voice when I was very tired, not even myself understanding why. With the diagnosis I understood. Robot is probably my 'normal', I have just adjusted my voice to how I heard others speak. Like I adjust everything about me to what is expected. And now I am tired. And it pains me when I feel my partner does not like that I am 'different' than before the diagnosis (I think he did not really see me before ... like my robot voice was the exception before, when I had no more energy left ... and now I see that my system prefers speaking like that ... but still I shouldn't because of him ... I am afraid he feels embarrassed about me ... painful thoughts). 

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