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Did your speech change after diagnosis?

StressedPenguin

I was diagnosed in June. My whole life suddenly made sense. My problems have not disappeared, but I feel I am better at voicing my needs. Now my partner is complaining that I have become more autistic. I guess its true. He also says my speech has changed. I have noticed that I bother less spending energy on intonation. Especially when I don't have enough energy. I just say what I want to say, monotonous, as fast as I need to. I feel like I should be allowed .... does it make sense? But I think it bothers him. I also got the feeling that he thinks I am making it up or copying it. Today he said - you have started to speak like the people we have seen on Love on the Spectrum. Well, surprise, I am autistic. But according to him I sounded less like that before. It may be true, indeed. Any experiences?
(BTW: Do neurotypicals not spend energy on intonation? How does that work? Is it somehow 'natural' to them?)

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  • My personal view is that an autism diagnosis is not a 'get out of jail free card'. Society still expects the same of you. If you want to interact with the allistic majority in the most optimal way, continued effort is still required. If you are content for your ability to communicate with people worsening and their appreciation of you becoming less favourable, then not putting effort into how you present will certainly result in this. It isn't ideal, in an ideal world all communication styles would be acceptable, unhappily we live in the world as it is, not an ideal one.

    Virtually all socialising takes a degree of effort for autistic people. Allistic people tend to slide through social interactions frictionlessly with close to zero effort.

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  • My personal view is that an autism diagnosis is not a 'get out of jail free card'. Society still expects the same of you. If you want to interact with the allistic majority in the most optimal way, continued effort is still required. If you are content for your ability to communicate with people worsening and their appreciation of you becoming less favourable, then not putting effort into how you present will certainly result in this. It isn't ideal, in an ideal world all communication styles would be acceptable, unhappily we live in the world as it is, not an ideal one.

    Virtually all socialising takes a degree of effort for autistic people. Allistic people tend to slide through social interactions frictionlessly with close to zero effort.

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