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Did your speech change after diagnosis?

StressedPenguin

I was diagnosed in June. My whole life suddenly made sense. My problems have not disappeared, but I feel I am better at voicing my needs. Now my partner is complaining that I have become more autistic. I guess its true. He also says my speech has changed. I have noticed that I bother less spending energy on intonation. Especially when I don't have enough energy. I just say what I want to say, monotonous, as fast as I need to. I feel like I should be allowed .... does it make sense? But I think it bothers him. I also got the feeling that he thinks I am making it up or copying it. Today he said - you have started to speak like the people we have seen on Love on the Spectrum. Well, surprise, I am autistic. But according to him I sounded less like that before. It may be true, indeed. Any experiences?
(BTW: Do neurotypicals not spend energy on intonation? How does that work? Is it somehow 'natural' to them?)

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  • Hey,

    I was also recently diagnosed and I can definitely relate to the "seeming more autistic". For me my voice and speech has gotten a little more child like if that makes sense, my reactions and showing my emotions has definitely gotten more intense as I unmask more. Skill regression is usually what these kind of things are referred to as, although it doesn't mean you are going backwards in fact you are probably getting better at being more yourself, unmasked. It is definitely allowed and you shouldn't feel bad for communicating however you feel is best for you, maybe explaining to your partner that communicating that way is less draining might help.

    I find that the person I probably appear most autistic to in the stereotypical sense is my partner because they know you the most and are who you are most comfortable around. I hope that helps at least a little.

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  • Hey,

    I was also recently diagnosed and I can definitely relate to the "seeming more autistic". For me my voice and speech has gotten a little more child like if that makes sense, my reactions and showing my emotions has definitely gotten more intense as I unmask more. Skill regression is usually what these kind of things are referred to as, although it doesn't mean you are going backwards in fact you are probably getting better at being more yourself, unmasked. It is definitely allowed and you shouldn't feel bad for communicating however you feel is best for you, maybe explaining to your partner that communicating that way is less draining might help.

    I find that the person I probably appear most autistic to in the stereotypical sense is my partner because they know you the most and are who you are most comfortable around. I hope that helps at least a little.

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