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Tea, but only if you're making!!

Literal_Joe

Conversation with two friends yesterday:-

When a person asks "would you like a cup of tea", the response is often "only if you're making". I find this ludicrous!!

Discussed with two NT friends (a couple), who explain that the responder doesn't want to 'put out' the asker. I say ... 'but that person has just asked if you want one, i.e they're happy to make you a cup'

Then they say that you might not want one, hence your response -I say ... Well if you don't want a tea, just say no!! 

They say - The person might just be being polite by asking if you want a cup of tea, and therefore the respondent is being polite in return, knowing that 

I find it all bonkers, stuff like this, makes no sense to me 

How about everyone else on here ??!!

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  • The way I see "only if you're making it" and not forgetting "if it's no trouble", "only if you are", "only if your going anyway", etc. etc. as fundamentally some of that Neurotypical language that oils the social wheels and binds people.

    Me, I would simply say “Yes, please” to any offer of tea, ice-cream, trifle, fruit cake, etc. and then “Thank you very much” on receiving it and "I really enjoyed that" after consuming it. After all why miss out on the mouth feel and those glimmers!

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  • The way I see "only if you're making it" and not forgetting "if it's no trouble", "only if you are", "only if your going anyway", etc. etc. as fundamentally some of that Neurotypical language that oils the social wheels and binds people.

    Me, I would simply say “Yes, please” to any offer of tea, ice-cream, trifle, fruit cake, etc. and then “Thank you very much” on receiving it and "I really enjoyed that" after consuming it. After all why miss out on the mouth feel and those glimmers!

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