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Turning up on time to things

Alexa

When I've agreed to be somewhere, I feel I have to be there on time and can't cry off or be late except for emergencies.

My absolute nightmare is long-distance appointments. I have to catch a ferry next week and my ADHD wants to get there at the very last minute because there will be so much hanging around after registering arrival, but my autism wants me to leave plenty of time for the journey in case something goes wrong, so I'm anxious on the journey for fear something will.

How do you cope?

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  • I always plan journeys in detail to (try and) avoid being late. For me, what "on time" means depends on the context.

    For medical appointments, I try to be a few minutes early. But also allow for delays - like having to hunt for a space in a busy car park. For work-type meetings, I was taught to arrive around 5-10 minutes early. For holidays involving flights (not that we've been away for several years), we like to get there really early. But we do use airport lounges, so it's not the same as the general concourse, which I wouldn't like at all.  

    That being said, I've decided that I need to create some checklists, to help me prepare for different kinds of trips (eg GP, hospital, vet, National Trust place). Because, despite planning journeys carefully, I often still end up in a panicked rush at the last moment, having forgotten to do - or pack - something or other. And so can often still end up being late and feeling stressed. I was trying to resist using yet another coping system, but it's time to just give in and do it!

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  • I always plan journeys in detail to (try and) avoid being late. For me, what "on time" means depends on the context.

    For medical appointments, I try to be a few minutes early. But also allow for delays - like having to hunt for a space in a busy car park. For work-type meetings, I was taught to arrive around 5-10 minutes early. For holidays involving flights (not that we've been away for several years), we like to get there really early. But we do use airport lounges, so it's not the same as the general concourse, which I wouldn't like at all.  

    That being said, I've decided that I need to create some checklists, to help me prepare for different kinds of trips (eg GP, hospital, vet, National Trust place). Because, despite planning journeys carefully, I often still end up in a panicked rush at the last moment, having forgotten to do - or pack - something or other. And so can often still end up being late and feeling stressed. I was trying to resist using yet another coping system, but it's time to just give in and do it!

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