Is secrecy an autistic thing?

I think it comes with having your life scrutinised and all your small quirks and other behaviours monitored and commented on, often detrimentally.

I don't think theres anything wrong with people wanting private space from a partner, it's about respect too, I'm as keen on guarding the privacy of others as I am my own, for example, I'd never look at a partners bank statement, I expect that same respect in return, just because I have autism and a couple of other learning difficulties doesn't make me incompetant.

I think the whole privacy/secrecy thing can be awkward to navigate too and socially isn't very clear. I mean we shut the door when we go to the toilet, we all know what we go there to do and yet it's done in privacy and theres a social blindness around it.

If something is told to me in confidence then I will keep it that way, confidential, another word for privacy, I won't tell anyone else unless there is a clear need too, usually around safety.

Secrecy is something else entirely secrecy is often things that others either shouldn't know, as in national security, or they're secret because they're illegal or morally dubious, like an affair.

For all I'm fairly open about my life and probably overshare some stuff, there are other things that I wish to remain private, simply because they're no one elses business. I don't think that when every choice you make is negatively commented on, or just commented on, makes you feel spied upon and like you have no space to express yourself, it's infantilising.

I think it comes with having your life scrutinised and all your small quirks and other behaviours monitored and commented on, often detrimentally.

I don't think theres anything wrong with people wanting private space from a partner, it's about respect too, I'm as keen on guarding the privacy of others as I am my own, for example, I'd never look at a partners bank statement, I expect that same respect in return, just because I have autism and a couple of other learning difficulties doesn't make me incompetant.

I think the whole privacy/secrecy thing can be awkward to navigate too and socially isn't very clear. I mean we shut the door when we go to the toilet, we all know what we go there to do and yet it's done in privacy and theres a social blindness around it.

If something is told to me in confidence then I will keep it that way, confidential, another word for privacy, I won't tell anyone else unless there is a clear need too, usually around safety.

Secrecy is something else entirely secrecy is often things that others either shouldn't know, as in national security, or they're secret because they're illegal or morally dubious, like an affair.

For all I'm fairly open about my life and probably overshare some stuff, there are other things that I wish to remain private, simply because they're no one elses business. I don't think that when every choice you make is negatively commented on, or just commented on, makes you feel spied upon and like you have no space to express yourself, it's infantilising.

Interesting thanks. Reading your take makes me think that, while I am honest - and sometimes too much so - my 'secrets' are behaviour based. I also fear I over-share, though I'm not sure if that's just a masking fear or actually a thing at this point. Tell me a secret and it is very much safe. 

Thinking on, I guess I also wonder whether there's a link between self-stimulation and self-medication... not to say that one is the same as the other, but that they both fulfill an unmet need. I've done both, both met a need for me but ultimately both were things I would (mostly) do in secret. 

Im the same with creating thinking about it - musically I work in headphones, more so that no-one can hear where I've taken myself rather than consideration for others (which is a factor there, granted). People can listen, should they choose to, once I've finished a project and made it public.