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Son diagnosed Autism Level 1 at age 23

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Good afternoon, I hope that someone can guide on how to approach my son after diagnosis. He was diagnosed 5 days ago and as soon as I try to talk about what I have been researching he becomes overwhelmed.

He was diagnosed with ADHD back in 2022 and only after suffering from social anxiety, depression and IBS the youth mental health team started to suspect the autism. This has now been confirm and we were told to contact the GP and ask for an autism support package. I have made the appointment but I am clueless and have no idea which support or how much support he can get.

He currently has been living with me and his little sister after suspending Uni when he had 8 months left to finish his degree, it's been nearly two years and it does not seem he will ever return. I had breast cancer last year and it has become crucial that he becomes an independent adult because I do not know how the future will look like for me. It has also  been very difficult to live with him as since he is back home his attitude has become aggressive to the point I barely talk to him.

I want to help him but I am not sure I am the right mother for him, I am not sure I have the patience any longer.

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  • A diagnosis can be a lot to process. Maybe give him some more time with his own thoughts before asking him to listen about your research. Also remember that autism is a part of him so someone telling you all about it can feel a little intrusive at times. That doesn't mean doing and sharing research isn't a good thing but just be mindful to allow him to express how it is for him. He isn't going to fit into every piece of research you find.

    I'll be honest, I've never heard of an autism support package through a GP. Support unfortunately can be very lacking for those of us with autism. I hope your area is a good one for what can be offered.

    It must be difficult if he is being aggressive towards you. Autism is certainly no excuse for that. It does sound like he is struggling with something though.

    Most areas have charities that support people with autism. Some are far better than others but it may be worth seeing if there is anything they can do to support your son. They often run programmes to support with independence etc.

    It sounds like a very difficult situation at the moment. I hope it eases for you both.

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  • A diagnosis can be a lot to process. Maybe give him some more time with his own thoughts before asking him to listen about your research. Also remember that autism is a part of him so someone telling you all about it can feel a little intrusive at times. That doesn't mean doing and sharing research isn't a good thing but just be mindful to allow him to express how it is for him. He isn't going to fit into every piece of research you find.

    I'll be honest, I've never heard of an autism support package through a GP. Support unfortunately can be very lacking for those of us with autism. I hope your area is a good one for what can be offered.

    It must be difficult if he is being aggressive towards you. Autism is certainly no excuse for that. It does sound like he is struggling with something though.

    Most areas have charities that support people with autism. Some are far better than others but it may be worth seeing if there is anything they can do to support your son. They often run programmes to support with independence etc.

    It sounds like a very difficult situation at the moment. I hope it eases for you both.

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