Having money and time.

I have had money since I was 18, enough so I didn't have to work, which gave me the time to seek out the support network I needed over the past 10 years. Its only been in the past 6 months that I have understood I had autism/ADHD. But in the previous 10 years I have rebuilt my inner self and psyche to being positive and healthy. I noticed that most people with autism/ADHD are still learning how to manage the trauma within themselves and how there brain still struggles with normative society and tasks, which I don't have to struggle with because I don't work and I have generated the support network I needed because I have the money to do it. 

A lot of people still struggle with the internal pressure, recriminations and negativity, which I have changed within my own brain. Its just because I had the time and money to do it and build myself a new away from my family and normative society. 

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  • I'm sure having money (whatever amount we each deem is enough) and free time help.  But surely they don't solve all issues you have faced in your 28+ years ? 

    I'm AuDHD too, so a few decades older than you, but now looking back I was compensating, masking and using support long before I was aware.  I believe many of those choices were also at sub-concious level too.

    Are you suprised you didn't actually discover that you are Neurodovergent sooner ?

  • Great comment thanks. And money and time can resolve basically every problem I have or had. Its interesting that I am just understanding how important money/time is once I understand I have autism, before I didn't realize it. My issue was building the entire support network I needed which is about relationships, time and money. For example last month I spend £700 of therapy, personal trainer and massage. I saw two therapist one neurotypical and one neurodivergent. I can drive because of money. 

    I terms of understanding it sooner, now because my old identity couldn't accept it, so I had to move out of my parents house and build it, to then accept it. I was told I was neurodivergent by one of my therapist when I was 28, 5 years ago. I started seeing my neurodivergent therapist before I understood anything about it, so I was doing the same as you too. But money means I have to capacity to generate what I need sooner and then I have the time to focus on that. 

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  • Great comment thanks. And money and time can resolve basically every problem I have or had. Its interesting that I am just understanding how important money/time is once I understand I have autism, before I didn't realize it. My issue was building the entire support network I needed which is about relationships, time and money. For example last month I spend £700 of therapy, personal trainer and massage. I saw two therapist one neurotypical and one neurodivergent. I can drive because of money. 

    I terms of understanding it sooner, now because my old identity couldn't accept it, so I had to move out of my parents house and build it, to then accept it. I was told I was neurodivergent by one of my therapist when I was 28, 5 years ago. I started seeing my neurodivergent therapist before I understood anything about it, so I was doing the same as you too. But money means I have to capacity to generate what I need sooner and then I have the time to focus on that. 

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