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Stress over friends party.

Twilightmirror

Hi, so I’ll just get straight to the point. My close friends having a part this coming weekend and I am more stressed / dreading it than normal. I have been to other party’s of theirs but for some reason this one is making me feel more dreadful and anxious about it, it could be due to the heat and having my day to day schedule thrown off ( even though I have had this in my calendar for a few weeks ). I am also friends with the other people who are attending this party.

Just wondering if anyone else has felt like this, and maybe some advice? Thanks in advance for any reply’s!

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  • I don’t go to parties but I have been to a few in the past. They caused me great anxiety, as they would for many autistic people.

    One tip is to arrive late and leave early. You could slip out of the room without mentioning to anyone that you’re leaving, as if you are going to the loo or to get a drink, and leave before the party is over. If it’s a fairly large party, people won’t notice, they will just remember you were present.

    If it’s a small party, it’s still acceptable to leave early and if necessary you can say something appropriate to excuse yourself.  E.g., you are tired/you’ve had a lot on/you have an early start in the morning etc. 

  • in reply to ArchaeC

    Somehow this reminded me that my grandpa  would only visit people and family for 20'.

    Often without sitting down.

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  • in reply to emanningis

    And he got away with that? 

    I was never in the habit of visiting anyone for less than 50 minutes. At a party, I would aim to stay for around 55 minutes to 110 minutes, depending on the party’s location and size. In some ways, the bigger the better as you can just melt away, people don’t notice.

    I dislike sit-down parties, so in that respect I’m like your grandpa. I used to always be told to ‘sit down!. I can still hear my mother’s voice ringing in my ears but there were other voices too.