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Stress over friends party.

Twilightmirror

Hi, so I’ll just get straight to the point. My close friends having a part this coming weekend and I am more stressed / dreading it than normal. I have been to other party’s of theirs but for some reason this one is making me feel more dreadful and anxious about it, it could be due to the heat and having my day to day schedule thrown off ( even though I have had this in my calendar for a few weeks ). I am also friends with the other people who are attending this party.

Just wondering if anyone else has felt like this, and maybe some advice? Thanks in advance for any reply’s!

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  • I don’t go to parties but I have been to a few in the past. They caused me great anxiety, as they would for many autistic people.

    One tip is to arrive late and leave early. You could slip out of the room without mentioning to anyone that you’re leaving, as if you are going to the loo or to get a drink, and leave before the party is over. If it’s a fairly large party, people won’t notice, they will just remember you were present.

    If it’s a small party, it’s still acceptable to leave early and if necessary you can say something appropriate to excuse yourself.  E.g., you are tired/you’ve had a lot on/you have an early start in the morning etc. 

  • in reply to ArchaeC

    Oh, another idea is arriving early when it's quiet, before people have had too much to drink. You could even ask the host if you can do anything, and might end up with a job, like showing people where to put their coats (though that depends if it's cooled down where you are by then), or serving drinks or snacks. And if you are early, sometimes people come over to speak to you instead of trying to go over to them (I find that harder so it depends on what your difficulties are!). And then leave early too as ArchaeC says when you've had enough, as after all, you were there early. 

    I'm not good at parties though, but I hope you do well and manage it!

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  • in reply to ArchaeC

    Oh, another idea is arriving early when it's quiet, before people have had too much to drink. You could even ask the host if you can do anything, and might end up with a job, like showing people where to put their coats (though that depends if it's cooled down where you are by then), or serving drinks or snacks. And if you are early, sometimes people come over to speak to you instead of trying to go over to them (I find that harder so it depends on what your difficulties are!). And then leave early too as ArchaeC says when you've had enough, as after all, you were there early. 

    I'm not good at parties though, but I hope you do well and manage it!

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