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Decided not to attend my graduation

hypercolius

I decided not to attend my graduation from an undergraduate astrophysics course in the UK. 

I know that when this becomes known, a lot of people in my department will likely be offended by this, and this isn't because of my department anyhow. 

It is because I simply cannot stand to see another student from my course again. 

I've posted on this forum before about how I was bullied out of a society. I only found out how much damage those people did behind my back only very recently and it is beyond horrific. 

If I said someone took my day-to-day behaviour and painted it in the worst light possible, it wouldn't even begin to explain how bad the situation was. 

Whilst more got involved later, two people started it, one of who was on my course and friends with a lot of people there. The outcomes included me having to make a complaint to the OIA, a relationship with someone I really cared about falling apart because she heard all the slander about me, and the only people who still care about me from my course are those who have already left the university. 

I still feel bad about not going to my graduation, but the event even before all of that is considered just seemed designed to stress me to the breaking point. 

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  • I think graduation ceremonies are more for families and parents than for the person graduating. I wouldn't of had anyone to come to mine which was another big factor in not going to it.

  • in reply to TheCatWoman
    TheCatWoman said:
    I think graduation ceremonies are more for families and parents than for the person graduating.

    I agree.  My parents had no academic qualifications,  my sister achieved one 'O' levels, her family don't have an 'A' level between them.  They openly talk about me being a freak and a weirdo because i went to university.  Yet she took it for granted that she would be invited to my graduation ceremony,  and got very upset because I decided not to attended.  A year earlier I wasn't even invited to my niece's wedding.

  • in reply to Robert124

    I had a similar reaction from my parents, they wouldn't of come evein if I had of gone to the ceremony. My Dad in particular was hostile to me being at uni and a student, people he judged as work shy time wasters, who needed to get a proper job, neatly forgetting that so many proper jobs need a universtiy qualification, like law or medicine. 

    I wouldn't of been allowed to go to uni when I was a teenager, I wouldn't even of been allowed to do A levels

  • in reply to Marianne72

    I'd of been out on my ear if I'd of gone at 18, like I say I wouldn't have been allowed to stay on at school to do A levels. It is horrible not to get any support like that, but then by now I'm used to not getting any sort of encouragement or approval, so I just do as I please, although, it could also be why I rarely if ever have a sense of achievement?

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  • in reply to Marianne72

    I'd of been out on my ear if I'd of gone at 18, like I say I wouldn't have been allowed to stay on at school to do A levels. It is horrible not to get any support like that, but then by now I'm used to not getting any sort of encouragement or approval, so I just do as I please, although, it could also be why I rarely if ever have a sense of achievement?

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