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Decided not to attend my graduation

hypercolius

I decided not to attend my graduation from an undergraduate astrophysics course in the UK. 

I know that when this becomes known, a lot of people in my department will likely be offended by this, and this isn't because of my department anyhow. 

It is because I simply cannot stand to see another student from my course again. 

I've posted on this forum before about how I was bullied out of a society. I only found out how much damage those people did behind my back only very recently and it is beyond horrific. 

If I said someone took my day-to-day behaviour and painted it in the worst light possible, it wouldn't even begin to explain how bad the situation was. 

Whilst more got involved later, two people started it, one of who was on my course and friends with a lot of people there. The outcomes included me having to make a complaint to the OIA, a relationship with someone I really cared about falling apart because she heard all the slander about me, and the only people who still care about me from my course are those who have already left the university. 

I still feel bad about not going to my graduation, but the event even before all of that is considered just seemed designed to stress me to the breaking point. 

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  • I turned up to my graduation ceremony recently. I can imagine what you are going through, just minimally. When I went to that ceremony, I felt small and unimportant. When I got my degree, it was the best thing that happened to me, aside from the acknowledgement and the handshakes. Of course, I had to be polite. There were a bunch of young people there, who I didn't know. I spoke to at least one person I knew from a first year history course. We chatted minimally, but then I kept my mouth shut. In fact, I am a very wary, guarded and reserved person. Don't take this the wrong way, but you shouldn't focus on other people (if that is what is bothering you). You are there for you. No one else. As an autistic person, I felt out of place, but I pushed through it. The only thing that bothered me was the screams. My hyperacusis was bothering me too much. Now that I think about it, I disliked sitting next to, on either side of other graduates. My sensory issues were still there, minimally, but I powered through the whole thing. In fact, I think this was a good day, but I can barely notice my sensory issues. I hate it when people sit behind me. It is an invasion of my "privacy". That being said, I managed to outgrow that situation. I think I handled it better. 

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  • I turned up to my graduation ceremony recently. I can imagine what you are going through, just minimally. When I went to that ceremony, I felt small and unimportant. When I got my degree, it was the best thing that happened to me, aside from the acknowledgement and the handshakes. Of course, I had to be polite. There were a bunch of young people there, who I didn't know. I spoke to at least one person I knew from a first year history course. We chatted minimally, but then I kept my mouth shut. In fact, I am a very wary, guarded and reserved person. Don't take this the wrong way, but you shouldn't focus on other people (if that is what is bothering you). You are there for you. No one else. As an autistic person, I felt out of place, but I pushed through it. The only thing that bothered me was the screams. My hyperacusis was bothering me too much. Now that I think about it, I disliked sitting next to, on either side of other graduates. My sensory issues were still there, minimally, but I powered through the whole thing. In fact, I think this was a good day, but I can barely notice my sensory issues. I hate it when people sit behind me. It is an invasion of my "privacy". That being said, I managed to outgrow that situation. I think I handled it better. 

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