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Decided not to attend my graduation

hypercolius

I decided not to attend my graduation from an undergraduate astrophysics course in the UK. 

I know that when this becomes known, a lot of people in my department will likely be offended by this, and this isn't because of my department anyhow. 

It is because I simply cannot stand to see another student from my course again. 

I've posted on this forum before about how I was bullied out of a society. I only found out how much damage those people did behind my back only very recently and it is beyond horrific. 

If I said someone took my day-to-day behaviour and painted it in the worst light possible, it wouldn't even begin to explain how bad the situation was. 

Whilst more got involved later, two people started it, one of who was on my course and friends with a lot of people there. The outcomes included me having to make a complaint to the OIA, a relationship with someone I really cared about falling apart because she heard all the slander about me, and the only people who still care about me from my course are those who have already left the university. 

I still feel bad about not going to my graduation, but the event even before all of that is considered just seemed designed to stress me to the breaking point. 

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  • I have plenty of academic qualifications,  yet I have never attended a graduation ceremony,  mine or anyone else's.  I just dont see the point of all the pomp and ceremony.    Other people see things differently.  My sister didn't speak to me for a year because I didn't invite her to my Master's degree ceremony. 

    Full story is:  I went to the university for the eduction and qualification,  I couldn't give a cat's poo about the ceremony.  So when I got the online invitation,  I didn't hesitate to decline to attend and click that I needed zero tickets.

    My sister however, took it for granted that she was going to be invited.  A week after I had declined the invitation,  she emailed me, inviting herself to my graduation ceremony.   When I told her I wasn't going. She uninvited me to her family christmas dinner and didn't speak to me for a year.

    She had worked decades at the university in computer support and had never been to a graduation ceremony. 

    Many, many years ago. I didn't attend my first degree ceremony either. I received the tickets in the post and tore them up as soon as opened the envelope.   Several days later a couple of students from my course came round and offered to buy my guest tickets.  Unfortunately the torn up tickets were at the bottom of the bin covered in rotting tea bags.

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  • I have plenty of academic qualifications,  yet I have never attended a graduation ceremony,  mine or anyone else's.  I just dont see the point of all the pomp and ceremony.    Other people see things differently.  My sister didn't speak to me for a year because I didn't invite her to my Master's degree ceremony. 

    Full story is:  I went to the university for the eduction and qualification,  I couldn't give a cat's poo about the ceremony.  So when I got the online invitation,  I didn't hesitate to decline to attend and click that I needed zero tickets.

    My sister however, took it for granted that she was going to be invited.  A week after I had declined the invitation,  she emailed me, inviting herself to my graduation ceremony.   When I told her I wasn't going. She uninvited me to her family christmas dinner and didn't speak to me for a year.

    She had worked decades at the university in computer support and had never been to a graduation ceremony. 

    Many, many years ago. I didn't attend my first degree ceremony either. I received the tickets in the post and tore them up as soon as opened the envelope.   Several days later a couple of students from my course came round and offered to buy my guest tickets.  Unfortunately the torn up tickets were at the bottom of the bin covered in rotting tea bags.

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