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Hello ALM. I'm sorry to hear about your experiences. I was in a similar situation myself. When I did work experience in catering in the hotel as a chef. I was getting insulted because failing to follow instructions correctly when I get asked to help out. I kept on making a lot of silly mistakes because of trying to work under pressure as I found it really tough especially when the chefs I had to work with were really demanding and unfriendly. Plus I found none of them to be helpful even when I asked to get their help. I did find one of the chefs to be so insulting after I made him and the head chef aware of my autism by letting them know I'm a neurodivergent. I got taken advantage of and was mistreated just because of being different to everyone else. I did tell the head chef that his member kept on insulting me and being very impatient to me. But then he as in the member kept provoking me and found him to be such a bully. I took the liberty to talk to the guest care manager to have him sorted out and his threating interaction to come to an end. It sort of got better but as the work was getting so tough. They had to let me go because of having a meltdown there.
I did voluntary work in the cafe afterwards and found that to be less toxic with the people I helped out there. However it was some of the customers that were upsetting me when they got impatient with me just because I was busy. I hate getting on the receiving end myself. I'm sorry if this if I haven't related to your situation fully but trying to support you by sharing my experiences.
I don't expect you to understand or not emphasise my point. I'll understand if my comment is a load of drivel.
I only meant well. I just can't help reaching out.
I recently took my employer to tribunal but they settled with me outside of court, so never got to the first hearing.
Most employers will try and settle outside of court as it’s cheaper than them paying for their own solicitor costs, but obviously they could go through with the tribunal so be prepared to go through with it too!
Valla helped me a lot… and learning about the tribunal process and tactics I could use as well as the employer would use. You could send your employer solicitors a Without Prejudice letter, to say you are willing to settle your claim for £X… (I would suggest using Valla’s case assessment service to get an idea on what your claim could be worth). Or if you fancied getting justice, go through with the tribunal hearings… just make sure you have your evidence. I must warn you, tribunal hearings are taking about 4+ years… mine was scheduled for 2029!
I've experienced this - you will not change the culture at the workplace - you will need a different job in my experience.
You should definitely investigate going to tribunal if you have evidence that they delayed adjustments and then implemented them poorly.
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I am just about to have my tribunal hearing so can kinda give you my experience.
Make sure you have loads of good evidence ie emails minutes of meetings, witnessess.
I have found it to be very emotionally draining as my employers have effectively ended a long professional career. it is also very expensive using solicitors, which I did as tend to freeze like a rabbit in headlights. You can of course do it yourself and I would point you towards the website valla. It will give you all the information you need and can even get lawyers to look over your claim for a smallish fee, certainly less than a solicitor would charge.
Best of luck
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Sorry to hear about this, I recently had to leave my job too, but for mental health issues and burnout
Have you tried getting a union rep or someone similar to help you with this?
I know it's hard leaving a job and I'm still learning to cope with it - I've found self care and revisiting who I am (in sense of what I like doing etc) to be useful before I'm going to start the dreaded job hunt again - perhaps this could help you prepare for the future?
