Help with Autistic Husband

I really need some help. My husband has just been diagnosed with Autism and his symptoms have skyrocketed. He's always found socialising and being in busy environments difficult but since his diagnosis he can't cope with them at all. I've done some research and it sounds like a lot of people experience this. I just don't know how to help him, I'm so overwhelmed. I absolutely understand that it isn't his fault, it's just very hard for me to cope with too. It's awful seeing him struggle with being out the house and seeing people including his family. 

Does anyone have any advice at all? He's starting to know when he's doing too much and he's been more vocal when he doesn't want to go out and that's working much better. I just don't know how else to help him. I've realised that I overwhelm him sometimes by making too many suggestions so I've really tried to dial that down and that seems to be working better too. What else can I do? Any advice would be so appreciated, or just people saying they're going through it too would be such a relief. Thank you x

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  • He could well be in burnout, if he is then he won't have the mental energy to process your suggestions, I don't know if you've ever had a big surgery or something like really bad flu? But burn out often feels similar, you can't think, your head feel wrapped in cotton wool, your body feels leaden and life is like wading through treacle, mentally as well as physically. I think you just need to carry on as normal, be there when he needs you and think of burn out as a real thing that needs time to recover from. Actually being diagnosed is a lot to process that can take some time to mentally settle

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  • He could well be in burnout, if he is then he won't have the mental energy to process your suggestions, I don't know if you've ever had a big surgery or something like really bad flu? But burn out often feels similar, you can't think, your head feel wrapped in cotton wool, your body feels leaden and life is like wading through treacle, mentally as well as physically. I think you just need to carry on as normal, be there when he needs you and think of burn out as a real thing that needs time to recover from. Actually being diagnosed is a lot to process that can take some time to mentally settle

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