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Help with Autistic Husband

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I really need some help. My husband has just been diagnosed with Autism and his symptoms have skyrocketed. He's always found socialising and being in busy environments difficult but since his diagnosis he can't cope with them at all. I've done some research and it sounds like a lot of people experience this. I just don't know how to help him, I'm so overwhelmed. I absolutely understand that it isn't his fault, it's just very hard for me to cope with too. It's awful seeing him struggle with being out the house and seeing people including his family. 

Does anyone have any advice at all? He's starting to know when he's doing too much and he's been more vocal when he doesn't want to go out and that's working much better. I just don't know how else to help him. I've realised that I overwhelm him sometimes by making too many suggestions so I've really tried to dial that down and that seems to be working better too. What else can I do? Any advice would be so appreciated, or just people saying they're going through it too would be such a relief. Thank you x

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  • (This is just my opinion as non expert / doctor.)

    Some autistic people get to diagnosis after autistic burnout (AB).

    AB may arise due to external pressure and masking (hiding traits like needing sollitude).

    Family members, friends, coworkers may not notice it, and the situation gets worse with time, resulting in AB.

    What you say reads as if he'd be needing to heal while learning to unmask (finding how much sollitude is normal for him, for example) and this in turn requiring to reduce the frequency of social interactions.

    In that case the reduction of suggestions and external events could be important.

    Apart from that, I would try to keep the other interactions as normal, and try to be kind when he seems to look for you.

    Eventually, if he trusts a psychologist, you could have a session together.

    (I think autistic people live best lives with fewer people in their social sphere, but possibly this is not true for every case.)

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  • (This is just my opinion as non expert / doctor.)

    Some autistic people get to diagnosis after autistic burnout (AB).

    AB may arise due to external pressure and masking (hiding traits like needing sollitude).

    Family members, friends, coworkers may not notice it, and the situation gets worse with time, resulting in AB.

    What you say reads as if he'd be needing to heal while learning to unmask (finding how much sollitude is normal for him, for example) and this in turn requiring to reduce the frequency of social interactions.

    In that case the reduction of suggestions and external events could be important.

    Apart from that, I would try to keep the other interactions as normal, and try to be kind when he seems to look for you.

    Eventually, if he trusts a psychologist, you could have a session together.

    (I think autistic people live best lives with fewer people in their social sphere, but possibly this is not true for every case.)

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