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I think it's a case of trying to find the right job. The right one can actually help give you energy and build up your confidence. A bad job does the opposite. I think it depends on: 

• Your interests.
• If you don't mind the work (you don't always have to love it, as long as it's not draining you).
• Nice boss.
• Nice co-workers.

A lot of these aren't anything to do with you even, that's why it can be tricky. 

You had a hard time in your last job, that was tough. It might have left you a bit down, which can make finding a new one harder. If you do things like profdanger says, maybe that can help with feeling better able? 

I think you have great qualities just from everything you've said on here, you just need to find a job where you get recognised for them!

Hang in there in the mean time. Being proactive with doing other things can help; with mental health by keeping yourself busy, and you can talk about them in interviews if you do anything you're proud of. Try enjoy life as it is, and have a set time for looking for jobs, but then do something you enjoy to cheer you up. I don't know if it's a problem for you, but I struggle with depression a lot when I'm not anchored to anything. 

If you can find ways of putting extra effort into applying beyond what they ask for on applications it can help get you noticed. 

You could also try work for yourself? I was just thinking if you can use a mower, you could advertise and see if anyone needs their lawns cut weekly? Or try making stuff and see if you can sell on Etsy while you apply for other jobs? Small projects that keep you going? 

Best wishes pinkchocoholic  (sorry a bit of a ramble)

it's not a ramble

thank you for your advice and saying nice things about me

I'm trying to do things I like and take the dog out (most days she gets 2 walks with me and her dad!). I've not thought much about working for myself, always thought it'd be more hassle than it actually is

Definitely agree with having a job that relates to my interests etc.

It's silly but I liked the work of my previous job but it drained a lot of my wellbeing from me. (I only worked 16 hours a week as well!) Guess I could try something similar or have a career change as people put it

I would think carefully about what it was that drained you.

Was it the environment, the people, the work, pressure, etc.

If it was pressure, was it really external pressure or was it pressure you put on yourself. Try to be honest about whether it was real or perception, if you can. Is it possible there were some misunderstandings.

Is there something you could do to gain confidence, relax, not take it so seriously or personally, etc.

Think about what you did well, as well. Not just negatives.

Thinking about this may help inform you of what your strengths and weaknesses are, what you could address,  what you may be suitable for.

thank you 

very good points I'll consider

thank you 

very good points I'll consider