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How do people with Autism end up in relationships with other people?

HighToryPsychic

I read a lot and I know people who have massive psychological issues, yet they have sexual relationships or a husband or partner. I don't get it. They are often deeply unhappy and damaged, they feel worthless, have autism/ADHD, but they have found someone who likes them enough to be in a relationship with them. 

Basically its confusing for me because I have never been in a relationship, I have autism, have spent 10 years totally rebuilding my psychic/mental health, yet I haven't come close to being in a relationship with anyone. 

Thanks. 

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  • My personal opinion is that instigating a relationship is another situation where unwritten or unspoken hints are used by NT people. They use a social code that we don’t pick up on.  It’s not a criticism, it’s more of an observation. I tried very hard to find a girlfriend when I was a teenager, I couldn’t understand how everyone else found it so easy. 
    I met my now wife in a local pub, alcohol was a way for me to be more normal.

    My wife sent a friend over to me to let me know she really liked me, apparently she had been giving me signals all evening, they were totally waisted on me.

    We have now been married for nearly 35 years, she was my only girlfriend, I honestly think I would still be single if we hadn’t met.

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  • My personal opinion is that instigating a relationship is another situation where unwritten or unspoken hints are used by NT people. They use a social code that we don’t pick up on.  It’s not a criticism, it’s more of an observation. I tried very hard to find a girlfriend when I was a teenager, I couldn’t understand how everyone else found it so easy. 
    I met my now wife in a local pub, alcohol was a way for me to be more normal.

    My wife sent a friend over to me to let me know she really liked me, apparently she had been giving me signals all evening, they were totally waisted on me.

    We have now been married for nearly 35 years, she was my only girlfriend, I honestly think I would still be single if we hadn’t met.

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