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Desperate for help - Right to Choose?

dsv2202

Hello,

My fiancé, 32m, and I, 32f, have long suspected he is autistic. His parents, who are both teachers by profession, admit that they were told by his school teachers that he was likely on the spectrum, but did not follow up on getting a diagnosis or support.

My fiancé is finding life as an autistic adult increasingly difficult, and his mental health is not great as a result. 

We recently saw the GP who referred my fiancé for an autism assessment. After completing the initial questions, he received an email saying that he is now on the waiting list to be properly assessed. The wait time is 2 years. I know this is standard, but we desperately need support for him and I believe a formal diagnosis will help us to access this. 

We mentioned Right to Choose to the GP, which he said ‘might work’, but gave us no further information on how to pursue this. We cannot afford a private assessment at this time. 

Can anyone advise on how to start the Right to Choose process? Who do we speak to? Where do we apply?

I would be so grateful for any advice.

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  • Push the GP harder on Right to Choose honestly. My husband got the same vague 'yeah it might work' answer and we were stuck like... what now? Sweat smile Eventually figured out we had to pick the provider ourselves, fill the RTC paperwork, and send it back through the GP.

    While waiting (took months), we used Autism 360. It gave us strategies for the daily meltdowns – how to pull him back when he was already spiraling, what to do before the overload hit. Didn't need a diagnosis to try small things that worked. Helped way more than the generic 'just breathe' advice we kept getting.

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  • Push the GP harder on Right to Choose honestly. My husband got the same vague 'yeah it might work' answer and we were stuck like... what now? Sweat smile Eventually figured out we had to pick the provider ourselves, fill the RTC paperwork, and send it back through the GP.

    While waiting (took months), we used Autism 360. It gave us strategies for the daily meltdowns – how to pull him back when he was already spiraling, what to do before the overload hit. Didn't need a diagnosis to try small things that worked. Helped way more than the generic 'just breathe' advice we kept getting.

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