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Okay, I don't know if any other autistic person can relate to this but I feel when I'm in public it's so hard to be present because I feel I'm constantly monitoring my own behaviours and trying not to act weird 

This is a very subconscious thing that I've recently realised that I've been doing but it just it makes it hard to just enjoy myself and enjoy the nature and be present without constantly scanning for who's paying attention to me and what people think of me

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  • Absolutely!  I’m always monitoring myself and I like to make sure no one’s watching me without my knowledge.  When I was in school, I’d always try to sit at the back of the class so no one could be watching me from behind without my awareness.

    I wish I could offer you some tips or advice.

    I periodically listen to guided meditations.  Those help after the fact, I guess.  For instance, there’s self-compassion meditations or Metta meditations on YouTube that I listen to sometimes.  Here’s a link to a meditation on YouTube that I like.  I like what he says and the sound of his voice and the meditation is only 10 min or so.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=vj0JDwQLof4 

    There’s also breathing exercises.  Like 4-7-8 breathing.  You would inhale for 4 seconds, hold the breath for 7 seconds, and exhale for 8.  Might help with centering yourself or bringing yourself more into the present. 

    Sorry I can’t offer more.  Be gentle with yourself.

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  • Absolutely!  I’m always monitoring myself and I like to make sure no one’s watching me without my knowledge.  When I was in school, I’d always try to sit at the back of the class so no one could be watching me from behind without my awareness.

    I wish I could offer you some tips or advice.

    I periodically listen to guided meditations.  Those help after the fact, I guess.  For instance, there’s self-compassion meditations or Metta meditations on YouTube that I listen to sometimes.  Here’s a link to a meditation on YouTube that I like.  I like what he says and the sound of his voice and the meditation is only 10 min or so.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=vj0JDwQLof4 

    There’s also breathing exercises.  Like 4-7-8 breathing.  You would inhale for 4 seconds, hold the breath for 7 seconds, and exhale for 8.  Might help with centering yourself or bringing yourself more into the present. 

    Sorry I can’t offer more.  Be gentle with yourself.

    HeartpulseHeartpulseHeartpulse

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