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Anyone else dread summer because of noise?

Scramble

I'm recently diagnosed at 60 years old! I need help. I'm disabled so mostly stuck in my bedroom.  I absolutely dread the summer every year. I am so intolerant.  My neighbour has a dog that is not disciplined for barking. It's so close it's as if it's in my garden. I like to have my window open due to claustrophobia and lung disease. I feel like a child totally unable to prevent myself from feeling rage when the dog barks. It feels personal. I dislike any noise. Does anyone resonate. I have severe insomnia because of CPTSD and Im in such distress from stimulus I don't want to go on. I can't wear headphones does to vasculitis in my ears. I am afraid to go into my garden incase noise starts up. It's ridiculous but its me. Please someone help me.

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  • I can totally get that, we have a long garden and on one side are houses with young families and they make an incredible amount of noise and they have frequent BBQ's the smell of which makes me feel sick. One little girl over the hedge has the most piercing scream and she screams a lot and always has, I wonder if she has a something like autism or adhd, but it dosen't help me feel more kindly towards her, she ruins my enjoyment of my garden. 

    I can't cope with the heat or the brightness of the sun, anything over about 23-25.C and I'm flaked out barely able to move and feeling really unwell.

    I can't use headphones because they make my cPTSD worse.

    Is there anyway you can move house to somewhere quieter?

    Your post reminds me of when I did some training in art therapy, we were given a picture done as if by a child, with lots of flowers and a big sun in the blue sky, a typical house with a door in the middle and windows either side. We were asked what we saw when we looked at the picture, most people said what a lovely sunny day and how beautiful the flowers were, nobody noticed the little sad face at one of the upstairs windows, it was a picture of a hayfever sufferers nightmare, unable to go out because of the pollen. Most people like the summer and theres lots of pressure to enjoy it, when you don't, it's really isolating, I've had a life time of being told to chear up because the suns shining.

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    Oh thanks this is the first time Ive posted and first time I have spoken to another ADHDer. I have the same. My bungalow has a row of others along one side. It literally sounds like they are in my garden. So, the big question... how on earth do you cope?

    Yesterday I was raging so blared music into the garden. But I didn't want music either and spent all day and night worrying about what I'd done.

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  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    Oh thanks this is the first time Ive posted and first time I have spoken to another ADHDer. I have the same. My bungalow has a row of others along one side. It literally sounds like they are in my garden. So, the big question... how on earth do you cope?

    Yesterday I was raging so blared music into the garden. But I didn't want music either and spent all day and night worrying about what I'd done.

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  • in reply to Scramble

    I don't have adhd, just autism.

    WHen the neighbours have competing sound system going I have thought of getting a big stage amp and giving them a blast of O Fortuna, or some really deep reggae. It's either that or going round the street with a big axe and smashing their noise making equipment to smithereens. I feel like I'm living with a load of inconsiderate housemates.

    I'm not in a position to move house yet, but when I am I will go back to living so far in the back of beyond they have to ship in daylight!