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Not sure how to move forward post diagnosis.

Ellie1984

I was diagnosed 6 weeks ago at the age of 41 after spending all of my adult life telling people how much I was struggling but feel I was largely not listened to. I feel angry with mental health professionals as I feel I was just labelled as anxious and then ignored. Either that or they decided what the issue was then ignored anything I said that didn't fit that idea after. I feel like my brain has tapped out of life now and it's a strange feeling. I am still working and get on with the bare minimum but beyond that I just don't feel like I care about anything any more. I just feel numb and like nothing brings me joy or interests me to care about it any more. How do I move forward from feeling anger and sadness at what my life could have been had I been heard and diagnosed sooner when I just don't care to try with anything any more? Sorry this isn't a more positive post.

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  • Hi Wave I was diagnosed with ASD last year age 46. I would say if you need support then ask and apply for it, to your local council or through your doctor. It’s easy to get caught up in the whole diagnosis this as a kind of expectation that things may be different to before. What counts is that people who know you and you can open up to are still there. How you got to where you are now can also answer your question about moving forwards. Because you obviously have coping mechanisms. From my perspective it has been about dropping some things which I have felt I had to do based on others expectations. This pressure builds up particularly when you don’t know you are neurodivergent.

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  • Hi Wave I was diagnosed with ASD last year age 46. I would say if you need support then ask and apply for it, to your local council or through your doctor. It’s easy to get caught up in the whole diagnosis this as a kind of expectation that things may be different to before. What counts is that people who know you and you can open up to are still there. How you got to where you are now can also answer your question about moving forwards. Because you obviously have coping mechanisms. From my perspective it has been about dropping some things which I have felt I had to do based on others expectations. This pressure builds up particularly when you don’t know you are neurodivergent.

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