Not sure how to move forward post diagnosis.

 I don't think  I can do this

Hey, I'm 41 too and diagnosed end of last year. 

Try write some stuff down, or I doodle, it helps me relax and feel calm. I feel a bit silly saying this, but having a difficult week and one thing that made me feel good was making a spreadsheet of all the episodes of a podcast I was listening to, so I could see easily which I had listened to and which I hadn't -it's Divergent Conversations, and I had jumped around the topics as I needed them. I colour coded sections and everything. When it feels too much, hearing people talking about having the same struggles as you can ground you. 

I've also copied this from a mods post, they are very good at noticing when people need an extra helpline. 

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The National Autistic Society does not currently operate a crisis or emergency service. If you feel you are at risk of immediate harm, dial 999 or contact one of the mental health crisis lines listed on our Urgent Help Page: 

https://www.autism.org.uk/what-we-do/help-and-support/urgent-help.

You could call your GP and ask for an urgent appointment – they can help you get the right support.  

If it’s not an emergency but you’re still struggling, speaking to a health professional can help. If your GP is closed, you can call 111 for NHS support. In England, Wales and Scotland, you can now choose option 2 to speak directly with mental health professionals: https://www.nhs.uk/nhs-services/urgent-and-emergency-care-services/when-to-use-111/.  

Samaritans | Every life lost to suicide is a tragedy | Here to listen

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So keep trying, the start is like being spun round an a rollercoaster, but it can settle down again. Take one small step at a time, use the emergency helplines like Samaritans to get you through a dark patch. 

It can feel like being in a dust storm, and you can't see your own hand currently, but wait for it to settle so you can see again. Find little things to keep you busy, even those adult colouring books to keep your brain occupied till your nerves have had a chance to calm again. The spring photos are nice to look at, but find what works for you. 

Take care of yourself.

Hey, I'm 41 too and diagnosed end of last year. 

Try write some stuff down, or I doodle, it helps me relax and feel calm. I feel a bit silly saying this, but having a difficult week and one thing that made me feel good was making a spreadsheet of all the episodes of a podcast I was listening to, so I could see easily which I had listened to and which I hadn't -it's Divergent Conversations, and I had jumped around the topics as I needed them. I colour coded sections and everything. When it feels too much, hearing people talking about having the same struggles as you can ground you. 

I've also copied this from a mods post, they are very good at noticing when people need an extra helpline. 

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The National Autistic Society does not currently operate a crisis or emergency service. If you feel you are at risk of immediate harm, dial 999 or contact one of the mental health crisis lines listed on our Urgent Help Page: 

https://www.autism.org.uk/what-we-do/help-and-support/urgent-help.

You could call your GP and ask for an urgent appointment – they can help you get the right support.  

If it’s not an emergency but you’re still struggling, speaking to a health professional can help. If your GP is closed, you can call 111 for NHS support. In England, Wales and Scotland, you can now choose option 2 to speak directly with mental health professionals: https://www.nhs.uk/nhs-services/urgent-and-emergency-care-services/when-to-use-111/.  

Samaritans | Every life lost to suicide is a tragedy | Here to listen

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So keep trying, the start is like being spun round an a rollercoaster, but it can settle down again. Take one small step at a time, use the emergency helplines like Samaritans to get you through a dark patch. 

It can feel like being in a dust storm, and you can't see your own hand currently, but wait for it to settle so you can see again. Find little things to keep you busy, even those adult colouring books to keep your brain occupied till your nerves have had a chance to calm again. The spring photos are nice to look at, but find what works for you. 

Take care of yourself.

Here is the website 

https://www.divergentpod.com/

I listened on Spotify, and I think they are on lots of other places you might listen to, and I think they might have stuff on YouTube? 

The presenters are both very real, and share their lives experience. I listened to the ones I needed to most at the time. Later on there is a series on burnout, andb they did while they were both in it, and you can really tell how hard they are finding it. 

I found it calming to hear people talking about all the things that were jumping round my mind. Dr Neff also has books and lots of other stuff on her own website.

neurodivergentinsights.com/

I'll also say, there is another podcast I listen to, it's more a general mental health one, but Kimberley Wilson has a really reassuring voice, I like to listen mainly as it's calming, even if I don't have those problems, it helps to know other people have issues too, even if they aren't the same.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/brand/p0mcyd0k

Thank you. Stupid question but where can i find the 'devergent conversations' podcast you mentioned?