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Not sure how to move forward post diagnosis.

Ellie1984

I was diagnosed 6 weeks ago at the age of 41 after spending all of my adult life telling people how much I was struggling but feel I was largely not listened to. I feel angry with mental health professionals as I feel I was just labelled as anxious and then ignored. Either that or they decided what the issue was then ignored anything I said that didn't fit that idea after. I feel like my brain has tapped out of life now and it's a strange feeling. I am still working and get on with the bare minimum but beyond that I just don't feel like I care about anything any more. I just feel numb and like nothing brings me joy or interests me to care about it any more. How do I move forward from feeling anger and sadness at what my life could have been had I been heard and diagnosed sooner when I just don't care to try with anything any more? Sorry this isn't a more positive post.

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  • I've spent over a year trying to come to terms with how my life could have been different. The grief was intense. I may take you a year or more to process it. It's hard.

    Don't bury it. Try to face it. Get angry and upset. But also try to accept it.

    Ultimate you have no choice but to try to find a way to look forwards and find new things to.look forwards too. I know this is true, but it is hard to accept, change is hard and letting go feels impossible. But the only alternative is to stay stuck.

    Realising things did t have to be this way is sort of false. You are who you are because of the path you followed. You wouldn't be where you are now if you had done different things. You might be better or worse, it is impossible to know. The mind tends to imagine the best case only. 

    It takes time to accept. Cognitively you can know things, but the emotional system runs on a different longer schedule.

    Be kind to yourself allow it to take time. It will become easier.

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  • I've spent over a year trying to come to terms with how my life could have been different. The grief was intense. I may take you a year or more to process it. It's hard.

    Don't bury it. Try to face it. Get angry and upset. But also try to accept it.

    Ultimate you have no choice but to try to find a way to look forwards and find new things to.look forwards too. I know this is true, but it is hard to accept, change is hard and letting go feels impossible. But the only alternative is to stay stuck.

    Realising things did t have to be this way is sort of false. You are who you are because of the path you followed. You wouldn't be where you are now if you had done different things. You might be better or worse, it is impossible to know. The mind tends to imagine the best case only. 

    It takes time to accept. Cognitively you can know things, but the emotional system runs on a different longer schedule.

    Be kind to yourself allow it to take time. It will become easier.

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