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Not sure how to move forward post diagnosis.

Ellie1984

I was diagnosed 6 weeks ago at the age of 41 after spending all of my adult life telling people how much I was struggling but feel I was largely not listened to. I feel angry with mental health professionals as I feel I was just labelled as anxious and then ignored. Either that or they decided what the issue was then ignored anything I said that didn't fit that idea after. I feel like my brain has tapped out of life now and it's a strange feeling. I am still working and get on with the bare minimum but beyond that I just don't feel like I care about anything any more. I just feel numb and like nothing brings me joy or interests me to care about it any more. How do I move forward from feeling anger and sadness at what my life could have been had I been heard and diagnosed sooner when I just don't care to try with anything any more? Sorry this isn't a more positive post.

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  • Hi  and welcome. I was diagnosed as AuDHD last year, aged 59, so I get your grief about not knowing sooner, but clinical and societal understanding are better these days, so maybe it's a good time to find out. We cannot fix the past but what we can do is recode it with self-compassion, as you didn't know then and neither did the other people who hurt you. This acts as a form of release which will help you focus forwards. A neuro-affirming counsellor can help accelerate this process or you can progress in your own way. We are here to help too in this community. Best of luck and know you are enough - just different in how your brain is wired, and you are not alone in that. Slight smile

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  • Hi  and welcome. I was diagnosed as AuDHD last year, aged 59, so I get your grief about not knowing sooner, but clinical and societal understanding are better these days, so maybe it's a good time to find out. We cannot fix the past but what we can do is recode it with self-compassion, as you didn't know then and neither did the other people who hurt you. This acts as a form of release which will help you focus forwards. A neuro-affirming counsellor can help accelerate this process or you can progress in your own way. We are here to help too in this community. Best of luck and know you are enough - just different in how your brain is wired, and you are not alone in that. Slight smile

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