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Aren't we the normal ones for noticing everything??

SJ7

Ever since my diagnosis last month I've been researching the topic heavily and many "Asperger's" documentaries that I watch says "he has heightened level of sight/hearing", "he notices all the sounds, the wind, the flag moving, the stares, the heat of the sun, etc..."

I mean... doesn't everyone?? I feel it so weird that we notice all of these things as if others don't have a normal hearing/senses...

If that's the case, aren't we the normal ones? lol...

I told my doctor I don't have a problem with eye contact, he said it isn't about having a problem doing it, he said it's the constant thinking about it while doing it! And that struck a thought... Normal people do it without thinking?? I find it hard to grasp...

Can someone explain to me what it means to not notice everything?? or does the brain just filter them out for normal people? isn't that dangerous?

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  • This has got me thinking, I love noticing things, and think I often see/hear things others may not. However, my mum often asks me how people reacted when I'm describing a conversation to her. I can never remember! Maybe because I was too busy trying to make eye contact or thinking about what my face should be doing to pay attention. Or maybe we all just notice different things. You could probably sit in front of a blank wall and still never notice everything about it! And everyone would probably notice something different about that same wall!

  • in reply to BeaE

    You remember what is important to you at that time.

    If you are in threat mode, you will remember things that look dangerous. If you are in pattern matching mode to try to fit in or it's just your intrinsic way, you will remember things that stand out as unusual.

    If you were expending all your effort on talking and organising your thoughts, you probably won't remember what the other people did. Especially if they did nothing that stood out.

    With people I think there are three options:

    1. The did what I expected, so nothing to record.
    2. They did something unexpected but I understand it and know how to deal with it, gets noted for a short while then deleted 
    3. They did something unexpected I don't understand, I don't know what to make of it, it gets logged. I can then recall.it for weeks,  months, or sometimes decades. I have certain things from the last 40+ years that get looked at from time to time.

    My diagnosis caused me to replay things from 30 years ago. But I don't remember what I said yesterday.

    Memory is based on need.

  • in reply to Stuart333

    Thank you this makes a lot of sense!

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