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Disciplinary at work

Bakedbean28

Hello everyone,

I am currently on a suspension from work due to what I believe as been an austic outburst and poor communication. I have not been formally diagnosed but I have made a self referral and will be speaking to occupational health in the coming weeks 

I am really unsure what has happened, why I am on a misconduct charge and why I am struggling to regulate myself. The facts as I understand them:

 A member of my team who I was supposed to be working with was fired, despite me being informed in the morning that I would be working on a project with her

I entered the afternoon meeting frustrated and confused, visibly shaken/ing and was described after the fact as 'disrespectful and aggressive'

I then took the evening to decompress and it took me a full evening to feel emotionally stable

 Any advice or support would be greatly appreciated . I don't consider myself an angry person but I felt incredibly strong about how that person had been treated, as they had been invited into to do work then told they no longer work here. I have also throughout my life struggled with recognising emotional patterns and prefer direct contact that can often come across to others as blunt and rude when I am just trying to be honest 

Any support or advice would be appreciated. I am now incredibly concerned for my career over something I genuinely feel was outside of my control to manage and have not really had any one come to me and ask why I felt this way in a way that wasn't part of an investigation 

Thank you

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  • Hey BakedBean28, that sounds tough. How are you doing today? I would probably be still pretty upset myself, so make sure you are taking the time to look after yourself.

    First, I could be wrong, but I think they have to clearly tell you the grounds for being disciplined? Do you have an HR person, as they should be in contact with you, or at least someone you could ask questions. If not, CAB are pretty good place for legal info.

    Second, just wanted to commiserate with you for getting upset about the whole situation with your former colleague.  I left a really good permanent job back to contracting as I couldn't agree with the way the company I was working for treated people. It seemed that every time a project finish, they would fire someone as a scapegoat for all the issues on the project. I couldn't bare it, and got really down, and decided I couldn't work for them any more as they went against my principles of basic decency. I think your company have shown that twice now they lack respect for people!

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  • Hey BakedBean28, that sounds tough. How are you doing today? I would probably be still pretty upset myself, so make sure you are taking the time to look after yourself.

    First, I could be wrong, but I think they have to clearly tell you the grounds for being disciplined? Do you have an HR person, as they should be in contact with you, or at least someone you could ask questions. If not, CAB are pretty good place for legal info.

    Second, just wanted to commiserate with you for getting upset about the whole situation with your former colleague.  I left a really good permanent job back to contracting as I couldn't agree with the way the company I was working for treated people. It seemed that every time a project finish, they would fire someone as a scapegoat for all the issues on the project. I couldn't bare it, and got really down, and decided I couldn't work for them any more as they went against my principles of basic decency. I think your company have shown that twice now they lack respect for people!

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  • in reply to Cinnabar_wing
    1. Ironically that's what I've been charged with breaching, but I still have not seen evidence or an investigation report pertaining to this. I was just told statements have been made and nothing further, I received a pack when I asked and all it included where the minutes from the investigation, a statement from two witnesses from two separate incidents