The Naming Ceremony: Is Diagnosis a Modern Shamanic Ritual?

While the clinical world is often obsessed with "disorders," most of us know that’s a fundamentally broken way to describe our experience. Lately, I’ve been thinking that for many in the neurodivergent community, getting that formal recognition—or finding your own path to self-understanding—feels less like a medical report and more like a naming ceremony.
I have to give a huge nod to TheCatWoman for this spark. In a recent chat, she used the brilliant analogy: trying to run a neurodivergent brain on neurotypical psychology is like trying to run Windows on an Apple. It got me thinking—if the "operating systems" are that different, then the people who originally built these theories weren't really scientists in the modern sense. They were more like 20th-century shamans trying to map a spirit world they didn't fully understand.
In ancient cultures, a naming ritual was a way to reintegrate someone whose "spirit" seemed at odds with the world. Once named, the "problem" became a "trait," and the person could finally take their rightful place in the tribe. Whether that name comes from a formal assessment or through the "vision quest" of self-diagnosis, it’s a powerful moment of literal recognition. It's like finally identifying with your own spirit animal—finding the creature that actually matches your tracks, rather than trying to pretend you’re a wolf when you’re actually a horse.
I also noticed NAS recently asking the community to share their own tips for securing reasonable adjustments. I suspect they may have been pivoting from my earlier post about being fed up with the lack of them! In this shamanic framework, when a group asks the tribe for their "how-to" guides, they are gathering the communal wisdom needed to help us become the Architects of our own Sacred Space.
These adjustments—whether it's noise-cancelling, flexible hours, or literal task lists—are the protective boundaries that stop our "Apple" OS from overheating in a "Windows" world and the horses getting predated by the wolves.
For those of you who have found your "Name"—whether through a clinician or your own research—did it feel like a clinical label, or did it feel like a ceremony that finally brought your soul home?
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  • Phased, I'm really touched that you credit me with inspiring this thread, although I'm not sure I can add much at the moment.

    For me that moment of inner recognition came when I discovered Wicca and The Goddess, I felt like I'd put down a huge weight I'd been carrying and I gained a framework from which to start building from. Although I wouldn't class myself as a practitioner of Wicca now and my spiritual understanding has developed hugely in the last 40 years, finding my place in the spiritual worlds gave a sense of self and rightness, even when things were going wrong. So much of Magical practice involves creating your own sacred space, it rarely ever occurs to me now that other people don't do it, why that should be as I spent so many years guiding people at uni along their spiritual path, a bt of a Duh moment I guess.

    As my name suggests I walk with cats and have done for a very long time, way before I found Wicca, I think I identify with creatures who walk alone and are fiercely independent whilst at the same time are happy to live in a pride as long as they are able to have thier own space.

    The power of the name is one of the oldest principles of magic, you can't have power with that which you can't name, being able to name autism is powerful, you now have something to work with, I'd not say to have power over, because to me thats just wrong, but to accept and work with something allows it to teach you as well as for you to have some boundaries within it.

    One of the odd things about how we think about anything from a common cold to autism, is we consider them a "disorder", something we need to impose our will on and make it go away. Obviously none of us want to lie there at night with a nose like a dripping tap and a irritating cough, but we know we just have to sit it out. Autism we need to sit with, maybe even see it as an opportunity to learn more about ourselves and have an awareness of the universe that NT's can really struggle with.

    Other's will probably disagree with me about this, those who's worlds are very black and white, unlike me who's thinking is very magical and multihued.

  • Ah    , I love this response :-) It feels like the right moment to say 'blessed be' to that.
    There is so much dashing around in my head to respond with! I love the witchy energy you've brought to the thread—it makes me think of my absolute favourite Terry Pratchett characters. I won’t be so rude as to ask about secret names, but it’s fascinating to see how that framework gave you such a solid place to stand.
    It’s interesting you mention walking with cats, as I’ve always felt a connection to the dragon-horse from eastern tradition. On the surface, it’s a sturdy horse doing the heavy lifting in a wolf world, but underneath, it keeps its mythical, dragon nature. Some even call me 'old man,' which I suppose is my own way of acknowledging the taoist path of just being the nature you are.
    Your point about the power of the name is spot on. Shifting from 'power over' a disorder to 'working with' our nature turns autism from a medical problem into a teacher. While I’ve been able to 'just sit with' some parts of my life for a long time, I'm only now learning to apply that same grace to the areas I've spent 58 years trying to force into a different shape.
    Whether we are cats, horses, or dragons, it seems we’re all just trying to build that sacred space where our multihued nature isn't predated by a grey, windows world
  • Often what appears as our greatest enemy can be our greatest teacher.

    We can look for that which repeats itself in our lives, often painfully, as things we need to learn, for me one of those has been how I choose friends and my expectations within friendships. Now I have very few friends and feel much better for it.

  • hehe - as regards the string theory - to share a personal fact with you, I have a very long thin fine hair that grows from the side of my body - I've had it all my life as far as I'm aware, well I certainly noticed it in  my childhood.  I am reminded of it - my wife gently pulled on it from her seated position as I stood sidewise on to her as I brushed my teeth a couple of days ago.  It's my theory that this is a bit of an antennae that connnects me to the universe :-) The threads that connect as friendship may appear as fragile and rare as this too.  Hhowever it does not meant they aren't enduring.  I am to am glad that our wyrd ways are compatible and linked by threads.  Best Wishes  Wizzard Pahsed

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  • hehe - as regards the string theory - to share a personal fact with you, I have a very long thin fine hair that grows from the side of my body - I've had it all my life as far as I'm aware, well I certainly noticed it in  my childhood.  I am reminded of it - my wife gently pulled on it from her seated position as I stood sidewise on to her as I brushed my teeth a couple of days ago.  It's my theory that this is a bit of an antennae that connnects me to the universe :-) The threads that connect as friendship may appear as fragile and rare as this too.  Hhowever it does not meant they aren't enduring.  I am to am glad that our wyrd ways are compatible and linked by threads.  Best Wishes  Wizzard Pahsed

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