Getting to know yourself again

Hello, 

I was recently diagnosed with autism and whilst everyone has asked if it’s been such a relief. I feel guilty and sad that there’s a part of me which feels no relief but regret for finding out. 
it was suggested to me by my psychologist and come really out of the blue. I feel like I’m grieving for a life and brain that I was working so hard for in treatmemt for a big majority of my life that was never really attainable as that actually isn’t how my brain is even programmed. 

I was just wondering if anyone else felt this? I feel more disconnected from people than I did before and almost a level of resentment of why can’t things just be that simple for me. 

I don’t know how to voice this as again everyone keeps saying what a relief I must be feeling. It’s like they gave me a diagnosed and instead of clicking together, everything feels more jumbled up. 

Thank you 

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  • Hi and welcome to the community.

    I'm not formally diagnosed but when I discovered that I was on the spectrum I didn't feel relief either - I felt confusion as to how I didn't realise I was different to others, and a bit unsure of who I really was. That was about 9 years ago and I'm comfortable with myself now, so give it time. Take care. 

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  • Hi and welcome to the community.

    I'm not formally diagnosed but when I discovered that I was on the spectrum I didn't feel relief either - I felt confusion as to how I didn't realise I was different to others, and a bit unsure of who I really was. That was about 9 years ago and I'm comfortable with myself now, so give it time. Take care. 

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