Managing a Special Interest

Hi! 

I'm new to this website, so forgive me if anything is formatted odd or anything.

Essentially, I've been diagnosed autistic as an adult - about five years ago now. I've had special interests before, and some have even been quite intense, but right now I am caught up in the most intense special interest I have ever had. Normally, I feel my experience with special interests is quite different to my autistic friends experience - mine are few and far between, and if they are not active in one moment, they are taking a backseat. But that doesn't mean I don't care about them, it just means something else has my brain at that moment. If I then interact with something related to an interest, it then takes the wheel. Whereas a lot of my friends have a small number of intense interests that they've had for a very long time, that manage to colour everything they do in some way. Like my housemate loves Doctor Who, and everything she wears, watches, does, is somehow related even in an obscure way.

But now I'm in the trenches with a new special interest that honestly came out of nowhere. To the point that I am genuinely struggling to even think about other stuff. I can't do other things that would normally make me happy because it isn't related to my special interest. And this level of intensity - to the point that I'm strugglign with university work and even house chores - is not something I know how to manage. Like, my special interests have definitely taken priority over work before, but this feels like my brain is being constantly dragged in one direction while I'm trying to drag it another. 

Does anyone know how to manage this? I don't want to lose the interest, or ignore it, because just the thought of that genuinely hurts. But it's becoming a problem and I don't know how I can make my brain focus on things it just won't focus on. All my usual techniques that help with the ADHD side of my focus problems are doing nothing. I assume that at least some of you will understand what I'm talking about XD so I'm hoping one of you might have some suggestions on how to not continue losing my mind to this special interest.

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  • Good morning from America, mossyfen!

    The first step you have covered, and that’s recognizing there is a problem. Since you have already noticed that the special interest is impeding on other facets of your life, that already gives you a step up in taking care of it.

    Next, you need to moderate somehow. It sounds like you’ve tried a little bit of this, but you need to be serious about it. Designate specific times when you allow yourself to envelop yourself in the special interest. Ex. I designate my special interests to take over at 7:00 PM after the kids go to bed. You could also, if you have homework from university, give yourself an hour or half hour to work and then fifteen minutes for special interest. That way you are able to experience it and get work done.

    I hope that helps a bit!

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  • Good morning from America, mossyfen!

    The first step you have covered, and that’s recognizing there is a problem. Since you have already noticed that the special interest is impeding on other facets of your life, that already gives you a step up in taking care of it.

    Next, you need to moderate somehow. It sounds like you’ve tried a little bit of this, but you need to be serious about it. Designate specific times when you allow yourself to envelop yourself in the special interest. Ex. I designate my special interests to take over at 7:00 PM after the kids go to bed. You could also, if you have homework from university, give yourself an hour or half hour to work and then fifteen minutes for special interest. That way you are able to experience it and get work done.

    I hope that helps a bit!

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