Autism and the Gym

Looking for some advice, experiences etc on joining the gym. This is something I've put off for years partly for financial reasons but largely due to anxiety. But I'm getting to that point in life where I really need to up the amount of exercise I do to keep healthy. I have tried doing it at home but I just don't keep it up and give up too easily. I did well with doing couch to 5k but as soon as it got wet and dark in the evenings it went to pot. I also had some difficulties with my back which I've now had physio for so I need to get back to some sort of exercise.

I want to try going to the gym. I'm hoping that if I've made the effort to go then I will make sure I do the full amount of exercise. I won't have the excuse of the weather or dark to stop me going. But I also know I can't aim too high as I will give up.

I am wondering about just starting with swimming or whether I should alternate swimming and a light gym workout. I'm ruling out classes at this stage, I'd be far too anxious in a group of people. I think swimming would be a good start exercise wise, particularly with having had trouble with my back and because I know how to do it.

My big concerns are:

1. Making sure I actually go and not just wasting my money. I struggle with motivation and transitions so it would be easy to talk myself out of going.

2. The changing rooms. Particularly with swimming. I do not like changing Infront of people and so many changing rooms are open plan. This is a big mental block at the moment.

3. I have never used a gym. I don't know how different machines work. I know they will likely do a gym induction but I will not retain all that information and will struggle to ask for help.

4. The small, often unwritten, rules like can I take my towel to the side of the pool. There are so many things other people seem to just know and I've no idea how they know.

5. The initial going in and asking to join etc. I get so anxious about needing to approach someone and talk to them. This is another big block right now. I can join online but I assume I then still would need to go in and show proof that I had joined. I don't know whether I can start using the gym straight away if I do it online or whether I have to wait for a card or whatever.

6. Feeling judged. This is a silly anxiety of mine but I always feel like I'm being watched so somewhere like gym where there are other people, I'd worry what other people were thinking.

How many people here go to the gym? What have been your experiences? 

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  • Hey Expecto. I have tried going to many gyms. I thought id nailed it with Pure Gym but I panicked and couldn't remember my code for the 'enter on your own doors'. Then there was a queue. Then I panicked again. Then I left (repeat). I even wrote the code on my hand but got so hot and sweaty it had literally dripped off from the car to the doors?!

    I find swimming the only thing I can do atm out of the house as I get there for 06:00/06:30 and there are very few people about at that time. I change in the toilet - odd but it works for me as there's at least a door between me and the rest of the world. I saved up and bought an indoor bike with a screen so technically I can cycle anywhere in the world without having to leave the safety of my house.

    You are so right with the towel, flip flops, drinks.....its like there's 'secret etiquette' how do they know this pointless, unwritten information?! When I joined the pool I asked for a time to bring in my docs and a quiet time (if there is such a thing). Some gym inductions have been good with a sprinkle of understanding. I asked them when I had my gym induction yrs ago and they wrote on a fitness card the ones I struggled to remember and wrote instructions down, one or two had a little stick man diagram from memory - I'm sure there's a link to the exercises discussed nowadays.

    I worry what people think of me when I'm just walking to the post box and back. Not sure its something ill ever lose. What I do know is that once I've done it I do feel slightly better and less fearful of doing it again. I cant say what's best but perhaps do what you think is manageable and the most achievable for you at this time and go from there. You are definitely not alone with your worries, sounds like you have motivation and that's the hardest part for me at all times. Best of luck. 

  • I did wonder about changing in the toilet. I'd need to see the layout of the place to see how well that would work. I'm not sure I'll have time for an early morning swim but the gym is open until 10 so I'm hoping not many people choose to swim late in the evening.

    I can join the gym for swimming only so I'm wondering whether to start with that and maybe up my membership if I'm finding it ok and want to up the exercise.

    I have motivation in theory. Actually doing the exercise is another thing. I give up incredibly quickly.

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  • I did wonder about changing in the toilet. I'd need to see the layout of the place to see how well that would work. I'm not sure I'll have time for an early morning swim but the gym is open until 10 so I'm hoping not many people choose to swim late in the evening.

    I can join the gym for swimming only so I'm wondering whether to start with that and maybe up my membership if I'm finding it ok and want to up the exercise.

    I have motivation in theory. Actually doing the exercise is another thing. I give up incredibly quickly.

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  • It's £10 less a month for swimming only so a fairly good saving.

    Yes I've done a bit of googling and it seems swimming is the ideal exercise for me. It's non weight bearing but is a full body exercise where as running wasn't. It can also burn more calories than running although at the speed at which I can swim, I'm not sure that'll be true. 

    This is a membership I would be able to cancel any time but I'm hoping the fact it was going out automatically will make me feel like I have to.

    Ideally I could do with going on the way home from work so I don't have to make myself get up again but it'll just be too busy at that time of day.

  • I managed to sus the layout when I had my induction/walkaround at a relatively quiet time. I would think very early / late would be similar but I haven't been late for a while. That's what I did, doesn't work out much cheaper if at all but then I only had one expectation for myself. I couldn't have gym and swim to complete when both already scared me. Think swimming is good for your back as there's less pressure on the joints if you vary the stroke?! Just tried to break it down to what I thought was possible. Motivation in theory is a start. I used to drive through fast food places and back home and bypass the gym altogether. I don't have a long (cant get out of) contract that helps with the finance guilt as its just periodically month by month and I can leave as and when. I hope you find what may work for you and especially your back.