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Haircut update

Expecto_Patronum

I managed to get brave and ring a salon and booked an appointment for this morning.

I went and it was fine. She was happy to cut it dry and I think she's cut it ok. Always takes me a while to get used to a new hair cut. As much as I wanted it doing because it was annoying me, I struggle with it looking different.

She did a little bit of chatting but not too much so I could cope with that.

I now have the dilemma of what to do when my usual hairdresser messages me to book in another appointment when she is better. I think I'm going to stick with this new salon. I found it an easier experience once I'd managed to book the appointment and actually turn up.

My usual hairdresser advertises as having understanding sensory issues etc but would often chew gum, wear strong perfume and have her phone on loud and beeping near my ear. All of which I found very challenging. She was also extremely chatty and I found the lack of mirror to see what she was doing difficult. I don't particularly want to tell her any of this but would ignoring her if she messaged just be really rude? I'm not one for lying so I don't really want to make something up.

  • in reply to Cinnabar_wing

    Yes I definitely think that was the push I needed to find someone else.

    I really hate awkward situations though.

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    I think she cuts the hair of a lot of autistic children that may not sit still to have their hair cut and get upset etc. Whereas many hairdressers may say they aren't cutting it, she will. So I think the parents are probably very grateful that she will do it.

    But as an autistic adult who can sit still but wants a quiet, non overwhelming hair cut, she doesn't seem to understand my needs. I'm sure she said she's doing sensory training etc but there is nothing in the way she approaches me as a client that makes me feel like she has. She also rearranges quite often which is challenging for me. 

    I had been considering changing for a while so it's probably a blessing in disguise that she is currently unavailable. It has given me the push that I needed.

  • I'm glad it all went well for you and you're happy.

    Your previous hairdresser dosen't sound that understanding to me, not if she's chewing gum, which I think is unprofessional, but the strong perfume and pinging of her phone. It's unfortunate that many hairdresser, especially barbers feel the need to wear such strong perfume, sadly it's because so many clients have terrible personal hygene and can really stink. Do you know in what way she see's herself as autism friendly? Because to me she sounds like most others.

    She will probably be sad to lose you as a customer, but that's not your problem, don't give in to any guilt trips, it's your hair and your money, do what makes you feel best.

  • I don't think you need to lie, you can be truthful, just limit the truth to you needed it cut in the mean time so you don't need a hair cut now. That might be enough, but if she replies and suggests booking you in anyway, just say thank you but your going to stick with the new place. 

    It might feel awkward, but you sound like your happier in the long run, and her being away for a while is an easy out without offending her.

    Edit: Also really well done with getting it cut! The whole conversation before and seeing you do it, means I think I will try again this year myself with all the advice from the other thread too!