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Holding Out for My Mr. Darcy

NeurodivergentMind

I stand by my hopes, but I always appreciate hearing other people’s thoughts.


Do you think I’m naïve to believe there’s a “Mr. Darcy” out there?


I love a rom-com, but I’m realistic, I’m simply looking for a man with depth, respect, emotional intelligence, a capacity for growth, and a genuine desire for real partnership.

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  • I think we'd all like those things, I think we're conditioned to expect them, whether we'll get them though is a totally diferent matter. Some people seem to manage to find someone of the like you describe, for the rest of us, it's no more than a fantasy and we settle for Mr Right Now rather than Mr Forever.

    I'm not a romantic person and I'm not sure the ideal partner exists for everyone, I don't think they do for me certainly.

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    Thanks for sharing your perspective. I wouldn’t want to assume anything about your current relationship or experiences. I do hope you’re content where you are, and if not, that something meaningful finds its way to you in time.

  • in reply to NeurodivergentMind

    I am content where I am and I find my life quite meaningful, I just don't need a relationship with another human to make me feel complete in some way. I have a dog to go for walks with and cats for cuddles, thats more than enough for me.

    I suppose I was meaning don't get hung up on having a relationship, live life for you right now, don't wait for another person to come along before you start living.

  • in reply to NeurodivergentMind

    Good to hear NM, I've met so many people, mostly women who are putting thier lives on hold waiting for A.N Other to come along and make thier lives perfect, I did myself for a while and it's a waste, it stops you living. I guess I was waiting for someone to rescue me from a bad relationship, I dont' know why I thought someone would when I've always had to be my own cavalry and rescue myself?

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    Glad to hear that’s the case. I hear what you’re saying, and I agree, life doesn’t need to be on hold waiting for a relationship. I’m content living my life as it is, with the openness that if the right person ever came along, they’d be welcome.

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  • in reply to NeurodivergentMind

    Good to hear NM, I've met so many people, mostly women who are putting thier lives on hold waiting for A.N Other to come along and make thier lives perfect, I did myself for a while and it's a waste, it stops you living. I guess I was waiting for someone to rescue me from a bad relationship, I dont' know why I thought someone would when I've always had to be my own cavalry and rescue myself?