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Holding Out for My Mr. Darcy

NeurodivergentMind

I stand by my hopes, but I always appreciate hearing other people’s thoughts.


Do you think I’m naïve to believe there’s a “Mr. Darcy” out there?


I love a rom-com, but I’m realistic, I’m simply looking for a man with depth, respect, emotional intelligence, a capacity for growth, and a genuine desire for real partnership.

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  • I don’t think you’re naïve for wanting depth, respect, emotional intelligence, and real partnership. Those are reasonable hopes. I do think it helps to separate those values from the “Mr Darcy” or ultra wealthy, though — the qualities you’re looking for can exist without the fairytale framing If that’s what you meant by Mr Darcy (I haven’t heard of him before and had to research) so happy to be educated here :) 

    for me, I met my wife and we weren’t really that compatible at first, but as time went on, we learned to navigate and respect each other and appreciate what we offer. I guess what I’m saying is that you at meet someone who doesn’t initially strike you as the person you’re holding out for, but over time, you see qualities in them that you value and they become your Mr Darcy the more you learn and appreciate them. The disappointment I think would come from comparing a fictional character to a real person and being disappointed they aren’t that. 

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  • I don’t think you’re naïve for wanting depth, respect, emotional intelligence, and real partnership. Those are reasonable hopes. I do think it helps to separate those values from the “Mr Darcy” or ultra wealthy, though — the qualities you’re looking for can exist without the fairytale framing If that’s what you meant by Mr Darcy (I haven’t heard of him before and had to research) so happy to be educated here :) 

    for me, I met my wife and we weren’t really that compatible at first, but as time went on, we learned to navigate and respect each other and appreciate what we offer. I guess what I’m saying is that you at meet someone who doesn’t initially strike you as the person you’re holding out for, but over time, you see qualities in them that you value and they become your Mr Darcy the more you learn and appreciate them. The disappointment I think would come from comparing a fictional character to a real person and being disappointed they aren’t that. 

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