AuDHD types - how do you switch off?

I have diagnosed ASD + ADHD and find it incredibly difficult to switch off/decompress. I really am interested to find out how other people switch off and recharge (and if they really manage to). Here are the things that 'normal' people do and suggest to me and how my brain behaves when doing them:

Read a book

I struggle to get past the first chapter, usually getting lost trying to remember who all the people and names are when the scene is being set. Frustration sets in by chapter 2 as more names are introduced. I'd rather have bird flu.

Go for a walk

Mind racing with all the weeks worries and stressors. Sometimes even change route part way through, then decide I preferred the other walking route, end up going nowhere fast and feeling annoyed. 

Watch a movie

Mind drifts to work, family worries, thoughts about dinner, or check my phone ... oh, honey, look, Domino's has a large pizza deal for only £175

Meditate

Constant stream of thoughts ... im aware this is not 'bad' but just end up thinking about lots of negative things and getting swept up in thought .... how can Domino's charge so much for pizza?

Listen to music 

OK, this one usually works ... when I can find a song to match my mood, still looking

Play video games

sold my PS5 months ago, felt totally unproductive and that I should be doing something more meaningful with my time (im still searching for that thing too...)

Journal

Write down all the negative stuff that's going on, realise it's just a book dating back 15 years now ... all negative .... feel worse ... have visions of throwing it away in the sea, maybe I should

Cook

The mess, the dishes piling up, the timing of all the items cooking, then finding out the curry tastes no better than jar store bought curry ... I'm now annoyed at having full jars of spices sitting around I'll never use again

The struggle is real ... 

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  • It took me 10 years to decrease from having - 692 different jobs / things to read / tabs open on my PC, so good luck.

    I am now down to fewer than 10, so it is possible!

    Two Things that worked were:-

    1. creating a file of "things to read" for the future. 

    2. If I suddenly saw something interesting online that (was so important that) I just had to read it, I copied the url and pasted it into my Sunday Google calendar, then it was "out of sight and out of mind" and I could get on with work.

    When it got to Sunday, I discovered that, even though I had a ridiculous and overwhelmingly long list of things to read, a few / some / many were not as interesting as I had thought, so I just deleted them. That was brilliant and a huge weight off my shoulders.

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  • It took me 10 years to decrease from having - 692 different jobs / things to read / tabs open on my PC, so good luck.

    I am now down to fewer than 10, so it is possible!

    Two Things that worked were:-

    1. creating a file of "things to read" for the future. 

    2. If I suddenly saw something interesting online that (was so important that) I just had to read it, I copied the url and pasted it into my Sunday Google calendar, then it was "out of sight and out of mind" and I could get on with work.

    When it got to Sunday, I discovered that, even though I had a ridiculous and overwhelmingly long list of things to read, a few / some / many were not as interesting as I had thought, so I just deleted them. That was brilliant and a huge weight off my shoulders.

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