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Feeling Like A Burden

Callum

Does anyone else feel like a burden to those around them? I am diagnosed with both ADHD & Autism, which means I need constant help. I live with my partner, but half the time it feels like she's a carer. It's not her fault. but it gets me down. Any advice on feeling like less of a burden on others close to me?

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  • Oh boy do I relate. *TW* I have ADHD/ASD and every so often deal with suicidal ideation. I also have a wife and is seems like she does most of the work (especially financially) while I keep missing everything that needs to be done or get flustered too easily. So yeah, I feel like a burden sometimes.

    There are two pieces of advice I’ve got from my experience:
    1. Look out for opportunities to be a helping hand to others. It’s tricky with the executive functioning issues that often come with Autism/ADHD, but a little help goes a long way to not only make others feel better, but yourself as well. I guess I’m saying “Selfishly help others” lol
    2. Remember that all people with Autism need some level of support. Some of us need more support than others. That’s okay. Changing your mindset from “I’m a burden to others” to “I need a little support and that’s okay” is a huge difference.

    Don’t get me wrong, I know it’s not easy. However, it is possible to slowly shift your thinking away from self-depreciation to self-acceptance.

    Therapy isn’t for everyone, but it can (and has, in my case) help with shifting your mindset.

    I hope it at least helps to know that you’re not alone.

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  • Oh boy do I relate. *TW* I have ADHD/ASD and every so often deal with suicidal ideation. I also have a wife and is seems like she does most of the work (especially financially) while I keep missing everything that needs to be done or get flustered too easily. So yeah, I feel like a burden sometimes.

    There are two pieces of advice I’ve got from my experience:
    1. Look out for opportunities to be a helping hand to others. It’s tricky with the executive functioning issues that often come with Autism/ADHD, but a little help goes a long way to not only make others feel better, but yourself as well. I guess I’m saying “Selfishly help others” lol
    2. Remember that all people with Autism need some level of support. Some of us need more support than others. That’s okay. Changing your mindset from “I’m a burden to others” to “I need a little support and that’s okay” is a huge difference.

    Don’t get me wrong, I know it’s not easy. However, it is possible to slowly shift your thinking away from self-depreciation to self-acceptance.

    Therapy isn’t for everyone, but it can (and has, in my case) help with shifting your mindset.

    I hope it at least helps to know that you’re not alone.

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