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Nightly nightmares

Elfilis

I’m really struggling lately due to having such horrible nightmares! I mean last two night have involved me having jabs in my arms and even feet but the horrible thing is I can feel the jabs in my nightmares and I can feel them even when I'm awake. I’m also vividly seeing all the horrible people who have bullied me and I'm either reliving traumatic scenarios or I’m making them up in my sleep. Also keep having nightmares of dying or losing my mum. I’m waking up all hot and tacky and sometimes even crying a lot and for the whole day I’m just so jittery and on edge, then I go to bed and the whole vicious circle begins again. Last night for some reason my nightmare was all the bullies ganging up on me then next thing is I’m dying of birth complications?! I mean don’t ask me where the latter came from. 

Does anyone know how to stop the nightmares? Or is this something I’ll just have to deal with? 

  • in reply to Elfilis

    That sound like it would definitely throw me off so I really don't blame you. I like drawing generally and also doodle to feel better (I hadn't even noticed this was a form of stimming, especially as I do all the same thing like  swirls for instance).

    Hopefully you will be out of that zone now you've recognised it, and can enjoy doing some relaxing drawing!

  • in reply to Cinnabar_wing

    Ahh that’s a good idea about drawing actually. Especially for Christmas! I have seen some Christmas colouring apps as well so they might help me. I guess my mind is just racing a lot lately with everything that’s happened I could be in burnout mode again.

    I think what could be making me feel off is that at certain times of year, I seem to get edgy but not realise or can’t remember why until later on. So example here will be that I remember years ago have a really nasty family fight from 30 November to 3 December. But I’ve only just remembered today. I don’t know if this makes sense. Like I’m trying to forget the traumas but I can’t seem to but I can’t remember until later on. 

    Another thing could be because quite of few people who bullied me have their birthdays this time of year, like one day after another, but these clusters of birthdays are quite frequent throughout the year. I do have a bad ocd with numbers. 

  • Maybe you could do something to feel like you're taking back control of the situation, as something might be making you feel off? Like writing it all down in a letter then destroying it? I know this sounds silly, but drawing a lovely Christmas picture and saying that's what your are going to dream about and having it by your bed? 

  • in reply to Kate Kestrel

    Well I have got a new bed which I’m getting used to but I do think it’s very comfy. I listen to music of a night but it tends to be on YouTube so it may get interrupted with ads, I was going to get my ocd cd player out though so I could try that. I don’t have my tea too late but I do tend to have a few biscuits and milk to help me sleep. Will do some research though. 

  • in reply to Zengarden🕉

    Hi there, thank you for replying! I’m sorry you have also been bullied in life, it’s awful that we have to go through this. I actually have a pillow spray so I might use that tonight. Also have a few plushies of my own as well, actually dressed one of them in a Santa jacket for Christmas

  • I think there’s likely to be lot of advice online about this? Presumably improving your sleep habits overall is likely to help. When I was recently experiencing toothache I had some very upsetting dreams - presumably due to my sleep being disturbed by pain and just generally not being well rested and getting into the deeper sleep stage of sleep. Avoiding eating late can be helpful too - so that you’re not being troubled by stomach discomfort or indigestion. Is your bed comfortable? Is your bedroom at a comfortable temperature? Looking at all these things might help. Research online - there’s bound to be some helpful suggestions from others who struggle in this way. Good luck.

  • Hello

    I can relate to that as well being bullied throughout my life. I find using sleep spray works and cuddling my teddy for safety. Unfortunately dealing with this everyday.