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Alexswan2001

Hi everyone, 

What  a relief to have found a community like this. I swear I've come to the NAS page 1,000 times and I never managed to work out this had a forum. 

How is everyone doing? I need some advices, I'm struggling heavily for a few years with things like housing, work, and money. I could really use some mentoring or basically someone to guide me through these issues. I get so overwhelmed with coping, I feel stuck and I just dont know which way to move forward...

Where can I go to get this sort of coaching/help? I'm basically homeless and work feels too daunting but I'm struggling financially. Currently at tribunal stage with PIP as they marked me 0 across the board saying basically i'm physically capable so I dont get anything.

Heeeeeeeeeeelp. 

Alex

  • in reply to Iain

    Hi Iain, I was diagnosed when I was 9 years old so the diagnosis is pre existing but I was a few years abroad and when I came back I discovered that the NHS had lost my medical file. I've been trying for some years to get back my whole file but it seems to be impossible. 

    I've also been trying to get the GP to write a medical letter to support my claim but I've been waiting 3 months. 

    I am receiving UC but very limited support coming from them. I have really tried everywhere to get financial support and as the time goes on I've become more and more depressed and weighed down by the stress and length of time things have been taking. I've been in touch with the housing people and had stonewall helping me but nothing has moved for me and I'm still homeless. Thank god I have someone close to me who won't let me in the street but even that relationship is starting to suffer because of it. 

    My tribunal has been passed on to a different HM Courts and Tribunal Service so hopefully this means someone else will be taking a fresh look at it. 

  • Alexswan2001 said:
    I feel stuck

    Go to your GP first and discuss your mood; it is easy to get depressed and not realize it. Ask him/her if they have a social prescriber. This is not counselling - you talk to this person to get an overview of your problems, and then, with their guidance, begin making plans. It's wise to get help defining the problem, rather than trying to tackle everything at once by yourself, then getting overwhelmed and frustrated (which is where you seem be). It also gives hope that there is a future for you. If you don't have a faith, try The Daily Stoic - it's a cross between meditation and a focussed Journal - a good way of starting every day. Doing nothing will render things worse. Best of luck! This is a great place to socialise and forget your worries for a while!

  • Hello Alex, do you have a diagnosis for autism or other neurodivergent issue?

    This will help in opening some doors for you but is far from the solution you are asking about. NAS have an article covering some of the care available here:

    https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/social-care/social-care-england/support-available

    There is also an article that lists the sorts of post diagnostic support:

    https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/diagnosis/after-diagnosis/formal-support-following-an-autism-diagnosis 

    If you don't have a diagnosis then I would get in touch with your GP and ask for a referral for an assessment. The wait time is long for this but it will contribute to your PIP application. I do note that they are getting really strict on you needing to have mobility limitations so if you are capable of other forms of transport then they may still reject you.

    Are you registered for any benefits? Things like UC would seem the logical starting point.

    Alexswan2001 said:
    work feels too daunting but I'm struggling financially.

    Even for NTs work feels daunting but it helps to give it a try and see how you cope. It is never easy, often comes with difficult people to deal with (especially managers) and has lots of stressers by it is the means to independence. If you can tolerate it then it can be a way to live a much fuller life.

    Making money from work also helps secure a more reliable place to live, a healthier diet and some comforts to help you have a safe space - if you are able then it is a good option.