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Any idea on support

Cw90

Hello all I know this may sound strange

I'm looking for support to learn more social and have more understanding of the social cues in intimacy or social settings 

I'm 35 I have autism and I fell although I'm 35 my social skills are very far behind I would like skills more of a 14-15 year old teenager 

I have done therapy to close the book on my traumas as a child I was heavily bullied I didn't have any friends growing up this happen from primary to secondary school. 

As a older teenager I did try to get a gf but I was often meet with rejection back than the rejection was quite harsh. 

I do fell rte bullying and rejection I faced from ages 8-22 has stunned my social development a lot for example I struggle with friendships reading social cues and never had a intermate relationship 

I would like to do but I fear the rejection but I also fear getting it wrong and screwing it up 

I just wondering if there's any courses or stuff I can do to help me devolpe social skills and being them up to date to a man of my age so I can do things more socially and start having intermate relationships as I always fear of getting it wrong or missing the hidden social cues

Thanks you reading 

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  • Firstly don’t allow yourself to be intimated by others, they are not worthy of your time or brain power. Focus on your strengths, if that means you have to be somewhere quiet to work through it all on small steps at a time that’s fine. I’d recommend talking to someone maybe a cbt therapist first or a psychologist if you feel this is because of your identity or self confidence. But cbt is a good place to start.

    Cw90 said:
    wondering if there's any courses or stuff

    If you contact your local council they will have someone there who specialises in neuro diversity who can signpost you, I was referred to an organisation which runs coference type day events (which are paid for), this isn't really for everyone - because it involves working with groups of strangers like a sort of networking event.

  • in reply to pietro_21

    Thank you I'm safe now I don't really have any friends and I tend to keep myself to myself I do get social support from family to do social things with family but I do prefer it as I think most people see me as different and that so tend to cause problems 

    Who do I contact at the council or ask for 

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  • in reply to pietro_21

    Thank you I'm safe now I don't really have any friends and I tend to keep myself to myself I do get social support from family to do social things with family but I do prefer it as I think most people see me as different and that so tend to cause problems 

    Who do I contact at the council or ask for 

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